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writes:In this moment I'm very depressed 5 month pregnant and I don't know what can I do....I move from uk in Italy at my Italian boyfriend left everything there and come here, we try from last august for a baby and in November I felt pregnant we were happy happy happy and now everything falls apart he's not that sweet men I fall in love anymoreHe used to treat me like a princess we had the most amazing time together now he has trouble with his work as well I do care about him and a part of me still loves himHe scares me I cry like a freak he calls me names tell me it's not his baby yesterday even push me after I had an argument and then he comes and say he's sorry the other weekend he said " you wanna see how much I love you?" and pull a bit of his hair WHAT?!? never have had or heard about something similar , anyone?!? It's mental ill or somethingI wanna come back to uk but I don't have anything anymore I left my job waitress and I can't work with my huge belly I've been always very cautious with my life can't tell my mom I'm very embarrassed can't tell anyoneI'm 28 years old a grownup women and I've done the error of my life, I'll have my little one no doubt it's a boy and the thing is I don't know nothing about baby's I'll be all alone to look afterAnyone think I need to stay with this strange man for the sake of my baby boy???
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (14 March 2013):
 Eventually even moms who are upset by something like this usually forgive and are great support
contact your mom, ask to come home see what she says.
you may be surprised. DO NOT stay with a man who abuses you... he will possibly also abuse your baby.... you and the child are not safe living with an abuser.
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reader, oldbag +, writes (14 March 2013):
 Hi
The first thing you should do is pick up the phone and ring your Mum, or Aunt or sister. If they know what's happening they can and will help you,the unborn child is their family just as you are.
Do it today.
For the babies sake and your health you need to be calm,in control,you can't do that being with a man who is so unpredictable and abusive.
You *need* your network of support around you so the sooner you can get on a plane the better.
Good Luck x
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reader, llifton +, writes (14 March 2013):
 this guy is abusive, that's one thing that's for certain. he pushed a woman who is pregnant with his child. he deserves an ass kicking for that!
i think you're better off without this guy. i know it's scary now, but i promise you, this is a blessing. you just can't see it yet. you'll figure this all out one step at a time and your baby will be the best thing that's ever happened to you.
it's normal to be scared now. you've never raised a child before and you're afraid of doing it all alone. but as i said, one day at a time. you'll get it together. and your son will be much better off without his abusive dad in the picture.
i think you should tell your mom. i know you might be frightened of her response. but i'm sure given just a bit of time, she'll come around and love her grandson and help out with him if need be.
i know this response might not have helped much by way of telling you what to do, but if anything, hopefully you can take some encouraging words out of it. i truly believe that everything in life happens for a reason. and it might seem confusing and upsetting right now. but i promise you, there's a reason for all of this. and you and your son will be just fine. :) keep your head up. life will fall into place and you'll be a great mom!
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reader, Dear Mandy +, writes (14 March 2013):
 HI
It's time to suck up that pride and go to your family. He seems unstable, they will be there for you and your baby. He may be stressed out with everything guys get scared too when becoming a father but this is a bit more than that. Take time out, go to your family get the support you need then go from there.
Mandy x
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