Surely I'm worth an Engagement Ring.. Aren't I??
Q. I am going through such an emotional roller coaster right now, I am desperate for unbiased advise. My boyfriend and I have been together for going on 6 years. We long distance dating at the beginning but after about 6months I moved to be with him...
A. 2 July 2013: I, myself, wouldn't care much about the ring. Yes it would be nice and thoughtful .. but the main thing I would be worried about, ring completely aside, is whether or not he will marry you. You say he says he will go to the courthouse and make it ... (read in full...)
I found condoms in my girlfriends drawer but we don't use them since she is on the pill
Q. im in a 1 year 3 month long distance relationship with my girlfriend. we see each other every two months due to school and work and we live in different countries. I have been her first one and she is on the pill so we dont use any kind of ...
A. 2 July 2013: that would freak me out, too. i can't blame you. but as was just mentioned, if she's not given you any reason not to trust her, i would take what she has to say and believe it. if she's never seemed shady before, give her the benefit of the doubt. i ... (read in full...)
Am I overreacting here? Or do men do this??
Q. Ok, my bf and I have been together for 3 years. He's 35 and I'm 31. We've hit a rough patch the past year, where we've had more fights and just can't seem to get along as much anymore. Sometimes when I ask him a question he won't give me a full ...
A. 2 July 2013: i mean, it sounds to me like he was just not wanting to talk about it in front of his brother-in-law. they probably got into a bit of a fight when he said he didn't want to take him, and then the brother-in-law came into the room and he didn't want ... (read in full...)
My lack of trust is causing problems in our relationship. Any advice on how to deal with this pls?
Q. Hey everyone so my boyfriend and i have been dating 5 months. We have been fighting for the past 2 days. We started fighting yesterday because he wouldn't go with me to a friends birthday party with me. He says it makes him mad because i never go to ...
A. 2 July 2013: to be honest, if i were him, i would have left the relationship by now. i'm not trying to be hurtful but just blunt. you are very controlling and clingy. and that's a definitely deal breaker for most people.
it's okay if he doesn't return your cal... (read in full...)
I can't say no to sex and being labelled by my friends. Please help me, I keep getting hurt over and over!
Q. I have a lot of guy problems, so ill explain where it all came from. Im 17 years old. I lost my virginity at 14. To a 19 year old, it was forced and I was Hammered. I had never even made out with a guy before him. Then i waited nearly a year be...
A. 2 July 2013: you've clearly recognized the pattern. that you have sex in hopes they will stay, but then they wind up using you. you've got to break the cycle you've gotten yourself into.
learn to love yourself. that's key. love yourself and all else will cha... (read in full...)
He's a liar and a hedonist but I love him
Q. Is there any hope for us? I love my fiance so much, he is my best friend and we laugh together so much and when things are good, I have never known so much happiness. But...he has been a womaniser all his life. He was married for 26 years and ...
A. 2 July 2013: I dated someone like this for over two years. Worst two years of my life. Constantly cheated and lied and had an excuse and justification for everything. After the relationship ended (thankfully), it took me years to get my head back to a good ... (read in full...)
I can't have a relationship with him but I can't stop thinking about him.
Q. Hi, I know this may sound crazy, but it is true. 2 years ago I had a problem, and I needed help. He was the only one to help, he's so decent, clever and gentleman. I noticed him staring at me sometimes, so I tried to make it brief talking t...
A. 1 July 2013: If you can't have a relationship with him, then I wouldn't worry at all whether or not he likes you. What does it matter? However, I realize that we, as humans, never work that way.
Sounds like he likes you. Or at least wants to sleep with you... (read in full...)
My friend thinks I'm spoiling my husband.
Q. Dear cupid My friend Debbie moved an hour and a half away a few years ago so we don't get to see each other as often as we use to. Debbie wants me to come and spent a weekend with her but my husband feels like why i cant just go and return ho...
A. 1 July 2013: I agree with your friend. You haven't gotten quality time with her. You should absolutely go and spend the weekend. And he should certainly understand. ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend won't move on from the mistake I made by texting my ex.
Q. Hey gd ppl...well i have been with my bf for a year n a couple of months. We recently had a problem with me texting my ex which is my cousin so he fought n had this thing of not trusting me anymore he keeps on telling me that if i wanna leave him ...
A. 1 July 2013: Once trust is broken, it's hard to gain it back. But HE chose to forgive and move on with you. So he signed up for forgiving. Once that decision is made, it's imperative that he not bring up the issue over and over. Otherwise, what is happening ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend won't admit that she is not sexually satisfied with me.
Q. Ok this might be hard to understand but bear with me. So me and my girlfriend are sexually active and what i thought was amazing. Untill a couple months ago i just found out that she isnt orgasm. I asked her if she was and she said no and it j...
A. 1 July 2013: hey. i am assuming you are the same guy that just posted the other question twice on accident. anyway, i do feel for you. i know that must not be a good feeling. it is fixable, though. as i mentioned, google is a wonderful thing. i would use it.
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I suffer from premature ejaculation and my girlfriend is not sexually satisfied!
Q. My girlfriend only orgasms from penetration. Thats a huge problem for me because i am small in size and i have premature ejaculation. She can nver orgasm from oral sex. I tried many different things and even went online looking for new techniques ...
A. 1 July 2013: let me tell you this. size doesn't matter. maybe it's too much info, but you can get a girl off with one tiny, little finger. i assure you you're bigger than that. so it's not anything to do with how big or small you are. don't let that get you ... (read in full...)
I want my ex back but need to know how he feels he has a g/f!
Q. Hello! So I'm a bit confused. I am still interested in my ex boyfriend. Every new guy that I meet reminds me how much I want my ex. Recently I met up with my ex for dinner. It was nice to see him. We talked a lot- about random things and about wh...
A. 21 June 2013: do you really want him back or is it just that he's moved on and suddenly has become forbidden fruit?
i think people try to offer themselves a lot of reasons and explanations why they "sabotaged" a relationship in the past. fear of rejectio... (read in full...)
Should I give this relationship more time or just walk away now?
Q. Should I give this relationship more time or just walk away now? I am 31, a single parent, rent a house of my own and work 5 days a week. My bf is 29, lives with his parents and works part time. We been dating for almost 2 years. Things started ...
A. 21 June 2013: this may sound a bit odd or suspicious on my part, so forgive me if i'm way off. but are you certain that he actually lives with his parents? he couldn't be married or living with someone else, could he? crazier things have happened. it is ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend can't make me cum so I took care of myself but he woke up and caught me and is angry!
Q. Hello aunts and uncles Bf and me have an ok sex life... he gets it anytime he wants, but since he works so many hours I do not initiate(I pounce on his days off) and let him rest during the work days. i never cum unless I touch myself, but h...
A. 21 June 2013: if i were him, i would definitely be turned on by it. lol. i would think most men would.
does he know you don't get off when you have sex? if he does, he probably is feeling inadequate. and so when he woke up and saw you doing it to yourself... (read in full...)
Just started talking, then nothing?
Q. Utterly confused and hoping someone could please shed some light! Been flirting with a guy that works in a store I shop in once a week. Really felt a lot of tension between us, definitely a connection. Two days ago we spoke for quite a while. H...
A. 21 June 2013: maybe he didn't pay his bill and it's temporarily disconnected. i wouldn't freak out just yet. he seemed interested. he texted you right away after he got your number.
you could pop up at his work, as you said you said you go there about once a w... (read in full...)
Is it appropriate to give the mother an anniversary gift?
Q. Hi, I have a quick question having more to do with etiquette. I've been exclusively dating a guy for a couple of months and we've hit it off extraordinarily well, so we are pretty serious about each other. We're in our late twenties and his parents ...
A. 21 June 2013: definitely thoughtful and sweet. seeing as how you haven't met the father yet, i see no reason to feel the need to get him a gift. doubtful he will be offended. lol. ... (read in full...)
Am I using him? Am I worthless?
Q. I want to know if I am out of line. My husband and I have been married for 6 years now he has three kids and I have three . We only have four of the kids living with us because his two older children are adults. I work four months of t...
A. 21 June 2013: i think once you get married, you agree to a partnership in which your kids become his and vice versa. i think he is out of line to say such a thing.
however, it seems he is clearly unsatisfied with this set up. some men prefer to be the bread wi... (read in full...)
What am I supposed to do to reassure my brother that NOTHING is ever going to happen between me and this boy
Q. A few days ago I asked advice about my brother being too overprotective and bossy about me talking to his friend that he introduced me to because apparently he was flirting with me and I with him, when my only intentions where to be friends. Hes a ...
A. 21 June 2013: that sucks that your brother is getting so pissed and snapping at you. i guess no one likes the idea of their closest friends dating their sister or brother. besides, that makes the dynamic in the house awkward if you two break up, ya know?
anywa... (read in full...)
I know it's unhealthy to hate someone, but I just hope my ex dies. How can I get rid of this?
Q. My ex dumped me with no reason two months ago. He's my first. He cheated on me twice and I still forgave him. We were together for 4 years and the last two years were long distance. We were serious. He talked about getting married and having kids. A ...
A. 21 June 2013: honestly, having that much hatred is just going to eat you alive. if your ex actually did die, i'd like to believe you'd feel bad for wishing it. i try extremely hard to forgive and let go of my anger because it will only exhaust me. it's amazing ... (read in full...)
How can someone say 'no communication' and then have the audacity to come and take a phone back that you lent them in the first place?
Q. my ex boyfriend broke up with me 4mths ago, we didn't talk for a month, then he began talking back to me. we had arguments till he felt we shouldn't communicate, I will say fine and respect what he said, then he come and try talk again when I don't ...
A. 21 June 2013: wow, no offense, but what an extremely unhealthy relationship you two have! no body should ever say things like that to each other. hopefully you both will eventually learn to move on and break this bad cycle.
technically, he stole your phone. y... (read in full...)
I feel like I threw away a good thing and now don't know how to contact her, after 8 months. Help?
Q. a while back i dated a girl who had been a friend for a good six months before we got together. we only dated about four months. the relationship was rocky (she had just broken up with her ex) and both of us were extremely insecure. we jumped into ...
A. 21 June 2013: does no one you know have her number or email? i say it's never too late to try to salvage a friendship. you say she was your friend before all of this - perhaps it's worth a shot to try now that both of you have had time to move on.
don't... (read in full...)
How long does it take for your friend to come back to you after ditching everyone for their girlfiend? Does it ever calm down?
Q. Will I ever get my best mate back!!?? Hes been going out with someone, his first serious relationship since his actual first one was long distance and didn't last very long and hes never had much luck with girls. When this first started we all u...
A. 21 June 2013: well if they've been together for 11 months and still spending all this time together, it doesn't sound like she's someone he would never go for. maybe he thought he'd never go for a girl like her until he actually met her. sounds like he truly ... (read in full...)
He confessed he was married then deleted his email account! How do I get over the shock and heartbreak?
Q. How do I forget this guy?! He emailed me yesterday confessing that he was married and hadn't been fair with me the past 6 mos. He then deleted his email acct so I can't reply to him. I have his cell number but don't want to appear desperate so ...
A. 21 June 2013: hey there.
i'm so sorry you had to deal with all this. what a shock!
youwish is right. this guy isn't getting divorced. he's still married and was merely talking to you on the side, leaving you completely oblivious. and clearly his wife didn't ... (read in full...)
Should I give this jerk who dumped me a piece of my mind or not give him the satisfaction?
Q. I would love your opinion about this. I was dumped today by a low life, cheating prick. He came to my house to tell me. I am really upset by not only the fact he did it but by how he did it and how unfeeling and cold he was about it. He came t...
A. 21 June 2013: oldbag is right, though. he DID do it face to face. that is the decent thing to do. he could have been a bit more sensitive, though. ... (read in full...)
Should I give this jerk who dumped me a piece of my mind or not give him the satisfaction?
Q. I would love your opinion about this. I was dumped today by a low life, cheating prick. He came to my house to tell me. I am really upset by not only the fact he did it but by how he did it and how unfeeling and cold he was about it. He came t...
A. 21 June 2013: i think you should send him an email if it will make you feel better. get your closure, sweetheart. it won't change anything or make him come back, but it may get some of your anger out and help you move on.
but that's totally up to you. only do ... (read in full...)
In the western culture... who pays the bill on a date?
Q. Hi Dearcupid, I came from asian background and i was on the dating website. Recently i meet a guy on line and went for a coffee date and one dinner date. Now i have a little question to ask " for the western culture, what should happen with...
A. 18 June 2013: Typically the guy will pay for it. However, if you are dating long-term, its okay to rotate turns and take him out. Some guys may not let you, though. ... (read in full...)
Is the friendship platonic or does she see it as something more?
Q. Hi just a quick question. Is it possible to have an emotional relationship with a member of the same sex? I am a straight female but lately I have been rather close to a woman who is older than me. She has become a sort of friend, she con...
A. 18 June 2013: of course it's possible to have an emotional relationship with a member of the opposite sex. i have one right now with my girlfriend lol.
as for your question, i would say it does sound like she likes you. but i wouldn't put much more thought ... (read in full...)
Am I overreacting or was it just the drink making him be like this
Q. Hi, I am confused over the actions of my date the other night. It was a first date and we went to a baseball game together, he initially seemed very sweet, smart, good conversationalist. We went to several bars after the game where we contined...
A. 18 June 2013: douche. bag.... (read in full...)
Am I really over her so soon?
Q. My gf broke up with me over two days ago. . .yet I think im already over it. We were together for over a year and we sure did have our fair share of problem. I did like her alot. . .even potentially could love her. Somehow though, somewhere along ...
A. 18 June 2013: i think you're perfectly great and fine. i think you're just being really rational and adult about this. you spent so much time and effort trying to please this woman, all to no avail. and it was no doubt emotionally draining. i'm sure it's a breath ... (read in full...)
Should I cheat on my girlfriend because she's overweight?
Q. Should i cheat on my GF? I know its wrong and everything, but i have been talking to this girl lately and i feel i have a connection with her, like its crazy how similar we are. Im not 100% sexually attracted to my current gf, she is over weight, ...
A. 18 June 2013: lol you can't be blamed or held accountable for your impulses and actions because you have a penis? hahaha. ... (read in full...)
HELP! How do I tell my flatmate she rude, without being rude myself???
Q. Moved into a great new place 3 weeks ago. My new flatmate is a 45yr old Russian and I am 25yr old British, so I appreciate that perhaps there could be a cultural thing with the difference of how things are said/done in our different countries. ...
A. 17 June 2013: i understand exactly where you're coming from. i'm much like you. i take extra precautions to be over-the-top polite and respectful of everybody. so when someone doesn't behave and treat me with the same respect i give to them, i find it rude and ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend refriended his ex. Do I believe the reason he gave me?
Q. So boyfriend refriended his ex on Facebook a couple of months after unfriending her because I had asked him to. I had insecurities about her even though they broke up about two years ago. He says it was weird that he unfriended her in the first ...
A. 17 June 2013: you have some insecurity issues, sweetheart. you should never ask your boyfriend to not be friends with someone. that's unfair. you are his girlfriend, not his owner. you can't control who he has in his life. rather, you have to accept it and give ... (read in full...)
Should I cheat on my girlfriend because she's overweight?
Q. Should i cheat on my GF? I know its wrong and everything, but i have been talking to this girl lately and i feel i have a connection with her, like its crazy how similar we are. Im not 100% sexually attracted to my current gf, she is over weight, ...
A. 17 June 2013: seven years you've been together and you're willing to throw it all away and sleep with another girl because she's over weight? harsh.
if you're unhappy, break up with her, take some time to heal, and THEN pursue this new girl or someone else. bu... (read in full...)
How do I make my ex my friend again?
Q. My ex (fiance) and I broke up after 14 months of dating, due to differences that she was over in the uk to study and ended up moving in with me for those 14 months. But then out of nowhere she wants to move back to WI, USA because that's where her ...
A. 17 June 2013: sharing a picture like that was pretty bad, no doubt. but let me just say .. packing up and leaving for another continent without telling your fiance kinda trumps all else. that's awful!
i'm not condoning your response because doing that is never... (read in full...)
My Dad refuses to be around my boyfriend
Q. I'm going to my cousin's 30th birthday party next week, but I can't take my boyfriend with me, as my dad is going to the party too, and he doesn't want to be around my boyfriend. My boyfriend used some bad language when he came to my dad's birthday ...
A. 17 June 2013: sounds to me like whatever it was that your boyfriend said/did was pretty horrible and obnoxious to have a bunch of grown men respond that aggressively and angrily.
i'm gonna go out on a limb here and say it seems quite possibly reasonab... (read in full...)
Why would he ask me to be room mates and take trips with him if hes not single?
Q. So I have this friend named Ted, who I have gotten close with since December 2012. I used to like his friend, James, who I was pursuing a relationship with until I found out James was just playing games with me. Ted and I became friends when he was ...
A. 17 June 2013: not really certain of his intentions. it is weird he didn't tell you he has a girlfriend. however, it's possible he just saw you as a friend the entire time and therefore didn't feel the need to mention it. but he's being crappy to his girlfriend by ... (read in full...)
No physical attraction?
Q. Can a relationship work if you get on well with a person but don't have much physical attraction?...
A. 15 June 2013: didn't work for me. i dated a wonderful person who was my very best friend in the whole world. we had an extremely healthy and emotionally stable relationship. but i didn't want sex. i found myself beginning to develop a wandering eye and i'm NOT a ... (read in full...)
I feel like my ex is my soul mate -- but I've since gotten married
Q. When I was seventeen, I met a guy and fell very deeply in love with him. Everything about him was ideal and we were together for three years. We broke up because he got a job in another continent and I was going to university and it didn't make ...
A. 15 June 2013: do yourself a favor. forget this situation ever happened and put him out of your mind. put your heart into your husband. you say he's your best friend - sounds like things are great. don't stray. you have what most people want.
you already ... (read in full...)
My husband looks at other women in front of me. Is this normal?
Q. I just have a quick question. Am i wrong for feeling a certain way that my husband looks at other women in front of me, he says he dont but I look right at his face and catch his wondering eyes, i take that as disrespect cause i know that men look ...
A. 14 June 2013: I think we try to give men too much leniency in this department. Clearly I am not a man and I have never been one. So I cannot speak from personal experience. But to say it's basic physiology and they cannot help themselves is just bogus. It's ... (read in full...)
My husband and I are not on the same page about how to raise my kids. Please advise?
Q. I have been married for 8 years it has been pretty tough. My boys are from a previous marriage. my husband came into this marriage knowing how I was as a mom. I do everything a mom would do for their kids, have I made mistake absolutely!!! My ...
A. 14 June 2013: You've been with this man for eight years. And you made the comment that he has no kids of his own? What do you consider your kids to be to him, then? According to how I see things, he's got two kids also. He may not be the biological father, but ... (read in full...)
My bf cheated with my best friend. How should I handle this?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been going out nearly a year now, and he visits me at my university halls. Last night he cheated on me with my best friend at university. We were drinking in my halls, and about 12am I went upstairs to bed, as I've just had...
A. 14 June 2013: I think you're just in shock right now. Give yourself a bit more time and it will sink in and you will most likely feel the anger and betrayal. I would take a little bit of time and get my head straight if I were you. Don't make any decisions yet as ... (read in full...)
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