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writes:Okay so I'm a bit confused would you say I'm bi or not. My close girl mate told me the other week that she fancied me I've been friends with her for ages. I didn't know how to take this as I thought she was straight. Anyway she took my hand and took me into the bedroom we started kissing and she gave me oral sex and fingered me..I have a boyfriend and he was fine with this but yeah advice please xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 March 2013): I agree with the other anonymous poster who posted here.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 March 2013): Thanks for your advice guys I did enjoy it I'm not going to lie and I have been getting turned on by lesbian porn as well as straight
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 March 2013): Only you yourself can tell for sure what you are. if you really enjoyed the experience then you must be.
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reader, llifton  +, writes (12 March 2013):
 anonymous poster. this is not a place for you to rant on your hateful thoughts towards gay people. this is a forum to help people who have legitimate questions, like this girl does. you didn't even answer her question. you just used her question as a means to rant about your own hate towards gay people. at least answer the question next time.
sweetheart, only you can know how you felt about what happened between you two. only you know what was in your heart. people like to label things too much. i don't think it makes you gay or bi or straight. you're a human being. period. try not to worry so much about where you stand. unlike anonymous poster, experimenting is perfectly acceptable and normal. it's how we figure out who we are and what we are attracted to.
if you enjoyed it and got turned on, perhaps you should experiment more with women and see how you feel. if you didn't enjoy it, it just means that you're more into men than women and that's your preference. as i said though, you're still young. no need to label yourself or stick yourself in a little box. no body's sexuality is really so cut and dry as gay, straight, or bi.
the reason it's become a "trend" in this generation isn't because of the reason that the anonymous poster suggests. it's become more and more "popular" because fortunately, in our generation, it's become more tolerated. so people aren't afraid to experiment with who they are now like they used to be. gay people have always been around since the beginning of time. they were just beaten and killed if they announced it. even up until the 70's, men and women were beated and raped in america (with the mindset that would turn them straight) for displaying who they really were. so this "trend" is not even a trend. it's people no longer being scared to death to figure out who they really are. they are no longer scared into silence and submission. THAT is what is going on.
anyway, i wish you the best. hope this helps some.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (12 March 2013):
 what advice would you like?
you may be bi
you may have been bi-curious and if you liked it and want more, well maybe it's time for you to reciprocate and give her oral and finger her...
this time, get permission before you do it, otherwise it's cheating in my book.
I'm bisexual. I like girl play for fun but not for a life commitment. So I'm currently married to a man that I do not wish to share...therefore I do not have girl play as I call it. I have not had girl on girl contact since 12/10 and do not plan on any anytime in my future....
same sex play is still stepping out on your partner unless you talk about it before hand.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 March 2013): it was wrong of your friend to just presume and do this to you, if she had any kind of respect for you she would have at least given you the time and space to let it sink in what she just said, and give you time to evaluate the situation as to weather you would be comfortable to do this. Not to mention yes you HAVE a boyfriend so really how dare she do that at this time. Too many people are being bi like a fashion craze today, I say this because my teenagers are telling me this is what is going on in colleges and schools today, so instead of the peer pressure for smoking it is now peer pressure to become BI... THAT I think is wrong. you are what you are at the end of the day, but to made to feel like its perfectly normal its not. woman was made for man and vice verser, I know many will say ( it's people like you that stop the world from moving forward ) BUT it IS people like me that keep the human population going because if we were all gay by the next 50 yrs we will be extinct not the animals. its getting out of control now, what with allowing gay marriage to, what is this world coming to, our ancesters will be turning in there graves. Its disgusting behaviour.
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reader, Dear Mandy +, writes (12 March 2013):
 HI
It don't mean your BI no , just means you were flattered and curious, your boyfriend would be cool with it as most guys are to be honest. I wouldn't rush into thinking anything just yet, this is how many people get confused and think right ill come out i must be gay or bi.....when infact its part of growing up , we can sometimes confuse love for a friend or same as being more than just that . love and admiration. there is nothing wrong at looking at the same sex and thinking they are beautiful and attractive it dont mean your gay or bi. However you had a sexual exprience with this girl so only you will know how you feel about this. either way as long as your happy within yourself then you will know what to do.
Mandy x
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