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writes:My boyfriend and I have been together over a year now, and it is definately the best relationship i've ever been in. We started off as friends and it grew into more. My boyfriend has always seemed a bit shy in bed - he has a condition called phimosis which i think doesn't help his confidence - and he's only ever slept with one other girl (who was a long term girlfriend) before me. Because we were friends before we got together we had plenty of conversations about sex before we became a couple amd he hinted that he and his ex were quite experimental. Since we've been together though its mostly me that seems to initiate sex alot of the time, and when i've suggested things or put on sexy underwear he hasn't really given much of a response... Recently we haven't had sex for over 2 weeks now, amd i'm just wonderig... Is this normal for a longer term relationship? This is my first serious long term relationship, and i am so happy sinve we got together so i dont really know what to expect once the honeymoon phase passes. I'm just afraid that either maybe he doesn't fancy me much or if the spark is fading and we're slipping into being more friends than lovers?
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (27 April 2015):
 I don't know about phimosis but maybe sex hurts him? Also if his ex girlfriend left him because of this condition then sex would be the last thing he's going to appreciate in life. It is up to him to find treatment. His problem won't go away by itself and having a perfect girlfriend won't cure it. In the mean while I would not be focusing on the sex life, but be supportive and find other activities to be happy. It doesn't mean you are friends if you still kiss. This is not normal for a long term relationship but still quite a few people have gone off sex for various reasons. If sex goes away after the honey moon period then no one would have stay married. We would just be changing partners every 2 years or so.
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