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writes:I was introduced to a guy by another one who was has been attracted to me for months. As soon as I met this new guy, we both felt mutual attraction and the feelings were so just so intense. He tried to know everything about me but I was not that interested in reciprocating his interest. I honestly thought I was being tested somehow by the first guy who I knew for months. I saw the new guy a few more times, he clearly was drawn to me and I may have been too, I just did not think about what I was doing. He tried to ask me out a few times but I declined hinting that I was not ready.I seemed to be playing hard to get, but I really was not. I just was not ready and had lots on. The last time I met him, things really were tense and were great...we could easilty detect attraction in each other's eyes without speaking. He did his best to make me laugh and teased me ...I finally started to feel deeply for him and he realised it. I am sure he knew he won my heart then.He cancelled the last meeting for an emergency. I conctated him a few weeks later saying that I'd like to hear his news and asked him in keep in touch. I did not expect much more than that. He replied and said that he had a few things to sort and that he would like to spend more time with me soon. He said he will contact me soon.It has been more than six months and no sign. -He is 40 and I got the impression that he wants to enjoy freedom while he could-He knows that I am only interested in marriage and I think he is too-He did seem to be financially stable-He always kept his words before.- I did not ask for anything but to keep in touch, he is the one who suggested we should meet again.So guys do think he meant what he said or shall I just forget him? I don't know see why he should jeopridise his integrity by suggesting other meeting if he did not mean it because I did not expect any of that from him. Please advise me what to do?Thank you Reply to this Question
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reader, hlskitten +, writes (3 November 2007):
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 November 2007): I'm not picking up in your story where a real romantic connection was made. I hear alot about interest and being won over but to what? Does he know you were interested in more than being acquaintances? You could easily see attraction in his eyes, but how can you speak for him? Maybe the timing is off, but I'm not feeling it. Is he? Maybe you should try contacting him and being more open and direct about just what your intentions are. After six momths of no contact, it's not like you have anything to lose. Good luck!
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reader, dearkelja  +, writes (3 November 2007):
 Six months is a long time to wait for someone. After this much time I am not sure he will live up to his commitment. I am sure he meant it at the time so don't be too hard on him. For whatever reason he is not available at this time. I had a similar thing happen to me. The guy poured on the charm and I kind of held back but then eventually he won me over and it kind of scared him off. It was as if he didn't know what to do with his prize. I'm thinking a similar thing is going on with you. Maybe he really isn't ready to settle down and doesn't want to hurt you, it could be a million things and unfortunately the only one who can answer that is him. It seems like you need some kind of closure but the only way you are going to get it is by contacting him. If you're comfortable doing this, go ahead. At least you will know and you can move on. Otherwise, give yourself closure and write him off. I waited a month and called the guy who told me he just wasn't ready for a relationship and he was sorry. It was hard to hear but at least I knew where I stood. Good luck with your guy.
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