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30-35,
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writes:Dear Cupid,Is it smart to kiss this guy? Let me explain him real quick. He is cocky and flirty (in teasing manner) and tends to shoot for "out of his league" as people say. I've been friends with him for about a year (a year older) and I really like him. He sometimes (as I say) loves me and sometimes hates me. I can never figure it out. Some days he just wants to flirt away and hug me and never put me down and other days he basiclly ignores me. It's very confusing. Anyway, I want to make a move. I'm not sure if he knows I like him, but most of his friends and mine (I'm friends with most) figured it out. It is common that people used to think we were going to become a couple but I guess neither of us knew it. I don't know what to do. Do I first get his number or be bold and kiss him when I feel a time is right? On the cheek or on the lips? When it comes to liking someone I am better with actions than words, but any advice would be apreciated. :) thank you!
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 July 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks a lot! :)
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reader, Dorothy Dix  +, writes (8 July 2011):
Hi there. He probably does like you, otherwise he wouldn't flirt with you the way he does.
It's also possible that he's a bit shy.
If you try to push ahead with kissing him, you might scare him away altogether.
Do you think he's aware that you are interested in him? If he isn't clear on this, you might have to be a bit more attentive so he isn't just guessing.
Sometimes people make assumptions and can misread some of the signs and then get it all wrong. Then they feel really awkward and embarrassed about it and they back right off. So you will have to tread carefully so that doesn't happen to you.
In the early stages of liking someone, there's a lot of guesswork because you just can't go up to someone and ask - "Do you like me?" So it's a case of looking for signals.
(1) Regular eye contact would definitely be one of those.
(2) If he says hello to you when he sees you and if he seems happy to see you.
(3) If when he talks to you, does he seem interested in you and your life?
There are so many tiny little things that point in the direction of someone liking you a bit more than just being friends. Over time, it becomes fairly obvious.
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