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writes:Hey.I'm almost 18 and I was with this guy for a year almost. He was the nicest, sweetest guy at first and we had such a laugh. He made me so happy.Anyway we argued a lot, he didn't like me speaking to other guys and would always question who they were. I loved him with all my heart and have never cheated on him, I just get on with males a lot easier than females.He used to always love spending time with me, he'd take me out places and always come round to mine and snuggle up and watch films. Whenever we argued aswell he would always come round and sort it out whenever he could.Anyway, lately, he started hanging around with these other guys (old friends of his who I don't like at all) and they are basically huge womanizers. Since then he changed. He started to distance himself from me, and he would always blow me off to go out with them. It broke my heart as he was slowly changing infront of my eyes :(.When I confronted him about it he got really angry and it just made another arguement. I tried to make it work but I just felt like I alone was keeping it together. I ended it because I didn't feel wanted anymore, even though it broke my heart and I'm still finding it really hard now. He didn't seem bothered, he was just like 'ok' and carried on going out with these guys, whilst I'm sat in each night crying :( he was my first true love.Is this 'distancing' a sign that he is interested in another girl? Because he text me saying he wants to be friends, and when I ask him if he likes someone else he's just like 'no swear down'. But I have a gut feeling that there is another girl :/ or is he simply just trying to spend lost time with old mates? Please help, his behaviour is breaking me and I am totally distraught :/
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reader, misskat  +, writes (18 July 2011):
Since you're 18 now, read the book, Why Men Love Bitches. It basically talks about what the last comment discussed. I totally agree. You shouldn't give him the time of day. When my ex's womanizing bf finally got a girlfriend, he got left in the dust for once. Your ex will see one day that his friends will settle down, blow him off, and he'll be so sorry for losing you.
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reader, Dorothy Dix  +, writes (18 July 2011):
Hi there. Maybe he's making up for lost time, and just enjoying his freedom.
Just give him some space, because it sounds like he needs it.
He might be trying to see if he is having an impact on you by acting this way.
Don't let him think that.
Go out with your own friends and have fun. Don't sit around waiting for him to call - or hoping he might.
If he texts you in future, don't bother answering the texts and if he does call you, just be a bit disinterested, like you really don't care. Then say suddenly, that you have to go somewhere, and end the conversation right then and there.
Don't be overly friendly towards him, or ask him what's wrong. Just don't go there.
If you see him in the street, don't cross the road to go and talk to him. Just pretend you didn't see him. If he calls out to you to say "Hi", just say hi and keep on walking.
If he crosses the road to come and talk to you, just keep on walking and pretend you didn't see him.
The main thing is you don't want him to think you are pining your heart out over him. Let him think that you don't give a toss. Also let him see that you are getting on with your own life and that you don't need him.
This will do him good, and will teach him that you won't be taken for granted by anyone.
Don't ever let anyone mistreat you or take you granted in future. You deserve better.
Expect only the best out of life for yourself, and accept nothing less.
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