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writes:There is this girl dating someone she really love this guy and this guy also love her but she later cheat ,she went to have sex with her ex but she no longer love her ex and her current boyfriend found about it he was mad according to him he said this is her second time cheating on him,this girl now is asking for forgiveness that she is ready to change but my question is Is this guy going to accept her,even if he is going to,will he trust her again?Lastly what should the girl do?
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (18 October 2017):
 It will take a lot for the guy to trust her again. If she loved him like she said she did then she never would have slept with her ex while in a relationship. I think the girl should take some time to be single and learn to be happy on her own. It sounds like she is not ready for a relationship if she is cheating and hurting two men. It is best if she is on her own until she is sure she can love someone and not cheat on them. She needs to realize that somebodies life could be ruined by being cheated on, it might damage his self esteem and confidence for the rest off his life. You don't do that to someone you love.
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (16 October 2017):
 The girl should try and be single a while. To figure out what her standards, morals, and values are.
The BF will not EVER trust her the same again. And that is 100% her doing. SHE chose to cheat. And with a guy, she really didn't care THAT much for.
I have to say I don't think "this girl" REALLY loves her BF "OH so much" if choosing to have sex with a guy she doesn't really give a flying fart about.
If the BF is smart he won't take her back. She is regretting getting caught, not the cheating... If she REALLY had regretted cheating she would have fessed up and the BF would have found out from other but from her.
OP, if this girl is you. Think about it. Would you want a guy who cheats on you and expects you to just "forgive" and carry on? I hope not.
LEARN from this.
It's NOT OK to cheat. Actions have consequences and saying "I'm so sorry" or whatever excuse "you" (general you) can come up with doesn't change the fact that the BF now knows he can't trust you the same ever again.
So if he doesn't want you back, accept it and LEARN from this.
He is probably thinking:
"Fool me once, shame on you; fool me twice, shame on me."
He probably doesn't want to be a fool for a 3rd time.
And "she" isn't mature enough to be in a serious relationship if she CHOOSES to cheat not once, but twice.
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