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writes:I haven't been out in the dating world for a long time. Recently I have been chatting here and there with a guy doing construction at my place of work, seemed like a nice guy, cute, I felt comfortable talking with him. So he asked me for my phone number, I decided to take a chance, after I gave it to him I told him I was a smoker and a non drinker, he responded with do you run around the house naked, then he said if I call you are you going to be nice or talk dirty to me, I ignored the comments, anyway am I just old, does this sound like a man who wants to get to know me or jump my bones? I'm turned off, it was hard enough to take the chance, now what do I do? He hasn't called and I'm relieved because I don't want to answer the phone.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (17 October 2017):
 It sounds like he wants a quick fumble, that would turn me off as well. You are not old, and at your age you should be treated with the up most respect from a man.
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reader, TrueLoveWaits2016 +, writes (17 October 2017):
Just move, you will meet quite a few weirdos out there when dating.
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reader, Ciar  +, writes (15 October 2017):
 It's a bit forward, I think and off putting especially at this early stage. You haven't even gone on your first date.
He may have thought of it as a harmless joke, but he shouldn't behave in a way that raises questions.
Just ghost him and move on. Don't give it a second thought.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 October 2017): I am 35 and that would immediately turn me off and I would have told him never mind. Good for you, and don't talk to him, he wants nothing from you but to get inside your temple, waist your time and energy...poison you.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (14 October 2017):
 Block his number. (f you can)
My guess is he thought you might have given him your number so you two could have a "good time". I don't think he was looking for a long-term partner and IF he was... well, he is going about it in a sleazy way.
We live and learn.
I think you handled it well by ignoring his ridiculous attempts at either humor or really bad pick up lines. Since he hasn't called or made further contact I think he knows that he put his foot in his mouth and that you aren't interested. And since he was probably looking for sex... he isn't going to put more effort into someone who doesn't JUMP at the chance.
It's OK. You had no idea that this guy would turn sleazy the moment he had your number. NOT your doing.
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reader, NORA B +, writes (14 October 2017):
No you are not old at all.This is a disgraceful question for any man to ask a woman.Be very thankful that he did not call.Would you consider joining some clubs i e. a writers group..or maybe you might be interested in study group just as a interest...any mixed group..is a very good idea of even getting to know someone before going out.Do not allow this man to put you of ..of meeting some nice man.Kind regards NORA B.
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