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reader, vegas  +, writes (4 February 2011):
vegas is verified as being by the original poster of the questionDown deep inside , I know you're right - I am still hanging onto a sliver of hope. Crazy isn't it ?
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 February 2011): Don't waste your cash on flowers.
Your hopes are slim and none and Slim just left town on a bus.
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (4 February 2011):
 "long standing comittment"????????????
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reader, vegas +, writes (4 February 2011):
vegas is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI actually love both of them .She has never been married - and now seems to be -for the first time in her life actually considering it. Kids grown.Still married because of long standing comittment + financial, GF says did want me all to herself . We could never live togther 24/7 . We are both spenders - she is extremely high maintenance & her family kind of supports her. I am the 4th guy shes dumped over her 50 years,so I guess I should have seen it on the horizon. It was even mentioned in passing offf & on over the years
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reader, angelDlite  +, writes (4 February 2011):
 thanks for the update, why are you still married really? do you love your wife more than her? kids? house? what? did your mistress want you to leave your wife? what do YOU want to do about this now? sorry but you still haven't given enough info
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (3 February 2011):
Say hey to the wife for me.
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reader, vegas +, writes (3 February 2011):
vegas is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThe last person was right . More details. She "broke up " with me in the beginning of September. We still dated, and were intimate until the first week in November. That's when she decided we should be friends - go out together-but no intimacy. I wanted no part of that. Then she wanted no part of it .
We met briefly the first week of January,and had a long phone conversation around that time. We both still love each other. it's agony for both of us - BUT - she says she wants to find a man who is not married.We both agree , our 4 years were the best either of us ever had with anyone.
She's on my mind all the time . I don't call her - her request. I send the occasional e-mail(forwarding something of interest). Never a response.
There are 3 dozen roses going out on the 11th-with part of the lyrics of a song by James Taylor - you've got a friend. I have mixed emotions about sending the flowers. Oh yeah - she said no past BF ever gave her flowers - i gave them all the time - along with a daily song to the ans. machine every A.M for the past 3 + years. Too mushy for my own good.
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reader, angelDlite +, writes (3 February 2011):
hi
yeah sounds like she may have got sick of seeing you for four years but you still haven't left wife. am only guessing though coz your post was very brief with not much detail.whatever her reasons are, only she knows for sure, and since you have tried to contact her and got no reply it seems like she does not care to discuss it with you
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (2 February 2011):
 Three months and no contact? Yes, it's over. She has moved on. Time for you to do the same.
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (2 February 2011):
Your mistress just finally wised up and saw that her life was not going anywhere and involvement with a married guy is a dead end street. Go groom another one. Your wife has my deepest sympathy, I think I can guess what started her drinking.
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reader, Denise32 +, writes (2 February 2011):
 Yes, it does sound bad. I'm sorry, but while you are still married, you really have no business being involved with any other woman, until and unless you separate and get a divorce.
Harsh? Yes, but those are the facts........even knowing it cannot be an easy life for you - or for your spouse who is endangering her life and health by her addiction to drinking....
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reader, vegas +, writes (2 February 2011):
vegas is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI am married - she has never been . My spouse has been having a long term affair with Southern Comfort.
I have e-mailed her- no response. We last spoke on 12/27/10 -for 30 minutes - she asked me to not call anymore - sounds bad right ?
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reader, Denise32 +, writes (2 February 2011):
Your "mistress"? I hope neither of you is married to someone else......
Anyway, if not, why not make a phone call or send an email to ask how she is, and see how she responds? No harm in telling her you miss her.......
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 February 2011): Well if u still are around or near her, talk to her and ask her if she still loves you and if she still wants to be with you and if she does then hey that's a plus if not don't be clingy give her some space and if its meant to be then she'll realized that she shouldn't have left you in the first place
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