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writes:HI! i got a partner about 1 and half year ago and we have a baby together. We had a very good sex life when we met about 3 months but since i got baby my partner didn't care about me any more as he said i was pregnant. But after our baby be born about 10 months now, he still cold to me. We had some arguement about small things, almost like nothing but i always happy after ward but not him. After an argument he would talk to me normal or talking joke but he never try to intimate with me like we first met, i asked him why, he said that he feel funny to hold or kiss me after we got an argument so i wait for him and he still stay cold even for 3 or 4 months later. I try to kiss or come close to him but he always excuse he too hot or too busy to intimate with me so my sex life become surfer. I told him that but he just ignore me. I want to kick him out but he doesn't want to move, he is lovely father but he so cold partner for me, i try evrythings but he never seem to listen or care what i said. If i kick him away, he will get our baby and go, i can get share care for our baby but i don't know i can get full custody as he wanted baby cause he said he will never leave baby, he want to be with her and i want to be with her all the time as well. what should i do? If i continue to live with him, we just live like a friend, not a coulple as we never kiss or even holding hands.Please help,anyone know why he is like that and what should i do to make me happy and get my baby?
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reader, angelDlite  +, writes (1 February 2011):
 hi
bit confused: are you saying that you met him and then just three months later you became pregnant? if so i think this is a classic case of rushing into having a child with someone before you have gotten to know them properly. it sounds to me like if there was no baby he would have left you before now, but he feels trapped because you have had his child now.
if you let him go, not only will he be free but so will YOU be and you may meet someone in the future who is happy to give you affection. you have tried to talk to him about it and he doesn't even care enough to discuss this with you. if you want him gone, tell him.
alternatively if you could be happy to let him stay living with you but just as a friend and sharing the childcare, then this could work out too. bear in mind though that future partners might not understand it and be suspicious
xx
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