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writes: Well, if you have followed my other posts, you will know that i had a married woman chasing me at work, tried to get away, finaly got away, had to cry "hostile work enviroment" to management, they changed my schedule, but it still overlaps hers 3-4 hours 3 out of 5 days. I thought it was over, but it aint, its serious bad, she finds an excuse to come into my area everytime she works to flirt with my co-workers (now this aint your average cheating married woman, i found out she has slept with members of management where i work, and a good number of co-workers..maybe a sex addict i dont know?) Iv delt with all her games and just ignored her, now she has escalated the situation, i thought that by minimizing my exposure to her things would jusr go away (i mean we dont even talk, we ignore eachother) She seriously pushed my buttons today, past the point they have ever been pushed...never been so angry in a very very long time, and when she pushed my button...she smiled the biggest smile i have ever seen! my god her eyes even sparkled......I stormed away....had to leave work 2 hours early, was so bent out of shape, i couldnt take the chance of having another encounter with her. You see she wanted me to sleep with her, and after much struggling i told her "no" and walked away, she once sent me a text that said " the game will be over when im done with you" I dont think i can take much more, i am thinking about going to management tomorrow and telling them to move me to another part of the store away from her or giving me hours that she doesnt work. my friend told me if they didnt help me out to ask them for there EOE phone number and call them and tell them the situation? Or i could just leave the job, its nothing i couldnt walk away from...just might not end up in a job i like very well, due to "time restraints" but it would be a whole lot better then being in this situation. Im so very tired of this whole situation..need some of your advice.......
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reader, christopher422 +, writes (28 July 2009):
christopher422 is verified as being by the original poster of the question Hmmm, wal-mart si waiting for the verdict back on the situation, by the end of the week..ill know whats gonna happen, and i took off the entire week, used sick hours...sunday the stress caught up with me.
After i find out what they have decided, im leaving wal-mart, that place has just left a bad taste in my mouth...im just staying around for "her" I stayed just to stand up to her, i wanted to leave so bad..just run away from the situation....But i decided sometimes you have to stand up for yourself...."dig deep, post your soul...bare your teeth and rage against the insanity of it all.....:)"
Sometimes we dont really know ourselves till we end up in a situation where our choices will define who we are...unfortunately sometimes when you do the right thing....you dont get to just walk off into the sunset...you gotta have a showdown first..lol
Thanx for all your advice and concern, hopefully i am not gonna have to post anymore updates to this situation...cause that would mean it escalated into a "really bad situation" hope its over with......:)
PS: ill update you on what the verdict was by corporate on the situation.
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reader, Libra1963  +, writes (27 July 2009):
 Hi thereGod you have gone through a lot. Please take sometime off work. You are making your self really ill. I am sure your employers will understand. Hopefully they will realise that they need to get rid of someone and it will not be you.Keep communicating with us.Best wishesAnnie
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reader, christopher422 +, writes (27 July 2009):
christopher422 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWell, i had to press sexual harassment charges against her at work, i had two witnesses with statments ready and allso this web site (where i have documented through posts the entire ordeal) last tuesday they took her statment and i guess they are done, sent the paperwork to cororate, they will send back the verdict, eather termination, or some other action. Im so exhausted from this whole ordeal, i still work with her, though they have given her orders not to talk to me or even look at me, still the stress has left me a total wreck..lost 30 pounds, barley eat anymore, even less sleep.....i have a phone interview tomorrow with the EEOC, i wanna know if they (wal-mart) handled the situation correctly, and if not , i want them held accountable for the needless stress and torment iv had to endure because they couldnt "accommodate" me when i told them i was enduring sexual harassment and was in a hostile work enviroment over a month ago. this week hopefully it will be over, found out she has been involved in a sexual harassment charge before, though i dont know who pressed the charges. Keeping my eyes open for another job, this whole thing and how it was handled by the company i work for has left a really bad taste in my mouth, thanx all for your advice.......
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reader, GrimmReality +, writes (20 July 2009):
 If she has boned members of upper management, and is still doing this after it has been documented that there was harassment, don't hesitate and get lawyered up.
That is a case of Management not enforcing this, and also if you can prove that she is sleeping with management members and this is still going on(the harassment), you have a legit case against your employer for not even handedly handling this.
Now..DOCUMENT, DOCUMENT DOCUMENT! Everything. because since this has been addressed by management and they have not taken the proper action...they are now liable along with this woman.
see an attorney asap....don't let this go without getting something out of it. Sue the crap out of em both!
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reader, ashleyhwrd +, writes (20 July 2009):
im with them file a sexual hurassment claim any job area should also have a number you can callgo to the pearson above your boss(s)
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 July 2009): I agree with all comments previously. Can you complain to your management if they can solve anything, if they don't do anything you can file complain to State, file sexual harrassment in the work place and also talk to the media (newspaper or TV), see if they can help you, I think this would do the trick. This woman needs to be taught a tough lesson. Another option, get a new job and don't let her know where you work. Good luck....
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reader, Libra1963 +, writes (20 July 2009):
It sounds like this women needs help. Do not allow her to affect your job. If there is anyone who should go its her. Having slept with management I am surprise she has not been shown the door already.
The previous advice is good. Keep evidence. Keep ignoring her. She will tirer and move to someone else. Try and get other people at work to witness her behaviour so that you have more evidence. It sounds awful.
I wish you luck. AS a women I can not for a minute imagine behaving like that at work.
Best Wishes.
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reader, rcn +, writes (20 July 2009):
 This time, no hostile work environment claim. She propositioned you, and harasses the employees. File a sexual harassment claim. With this behavior escalating to the level it has, you may have to involve the Department of Employment. I'd talk to management, "keep records of when you have and what was accomplished, also keep a log of her behavior, dates times etc." If management blows you off, file your claim with the E.E.O.C. (Equal Employment Opportunity Commission), or your local Department of Employment. Both of which are basically the law enforcement over employers.
With that text she sent, it seems as if she's not someone to just take no for an answer. Depending on what happens with your employer, you may want to consider filing a protection order against her with your County Court. This would at least order her to stay away, or be arrested.
I hope this helps.
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reader, RAINORFIRE +, writes (20 July 2009):
 Thats sexual harrasment try to get evidence of her unwanted sexual advances record her save her text etc save your documents and record your complaints you may have to go to the policeits more rare for a man to be harrased in this way people may not take you serious belive or car but obviously its adversly effecting you and your uncomfortable you have all the rte to file a sexual harassment complaint you should get a lawyer too good luck
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