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writes:I've known my boyfriend for a full year but have gotten serious since march. I'm 19 years old ( going to be my 2nd year on college) and he's 26 with a stable job ( has his life straight for the most part).since march, we've been doing a long distance relationship where we would talk every morning for 20 minutes and every evening we would see eachother through webcam. We've talked about all the things we would do together when I came back home. Communication basicallly kept this relationship alive.May was the month that I looked forward to the most because that was when I finally get To go home from college and see my him. Since then , I've had the most spectacular times with him. I will say that this is my best summer yet and I wish I can live my life this happily. He and I feel that we are destined to b together and if we could get marrried now, we would but because of the circumstances, we can't. Here's my problem: I planned on being with him until summer is over ( aug 23). But every minute I spend with him, I can't seem to let go. I'm not dependent on him, I feel that I am extremely comfortable when I am in his presence. College comes once and it is perhaps the best time to meet people and experience. I don't want to be tied down in arelationship during my first few college years. He and I have talked about this and we were like, let's see what happens till then, for now, let's enjoy our time that we didint have together when you were in college. he's gone through great lengths to make my happy and make sure I am healthy( the perfect boyfriend, my first true love. Physically and emotionally attached to him) I've heard mixed opinions about this..."leave now becauseit will hurt in the end", " just enjoy yourselves while you can and see what happens", "follow your heart and if he makes you happy, continue the relationship through college and do what you have been doing during the school year to keep the relationship alive " he's willing and able to fly over once a month or so to see me. ...I can't let this guy go. But I feel that I have to to fully experience college.. It saddens me everytime I think about this because he's such a wonderful boyfriend...I don't want to leave him now because we are having a blast and we spend every moment we can together. But in the end, I have to move on..He honestly makes me the happiest girl in the world. The end of summer will be bittersweet. I'm trying to see this relationship without being so blinded by love and also seeing whats best for me to do at this stage in my life..If he makes me happy and is willing to see me, why leave (not that distance is an issue)? But at the same time, realistically, our timing is off. He is ready to settle (and will wait for me if I continue this) whereas I'm just starting the (possible) dating scene. What should I do, what are my options in this situation???Thank you for reading this.. Really appreciate any advice.
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reader, Jason32477 +, writes (20 July 2009):
 He seams perfect.Don`t think that just because your not dating your not experiencing life.If you have found happiness don`t be so quick to let go.College is only a few years and your relationship can continue to grow.He is wiling to put in a lot of effort to see you once a month.If you take the time to step back and look at things I think you will see that jeopardizing such a wonderful relationship would be a sad mistake.Life isn`t measured in terms of how many people we date.Its measured in the meaningful relationships we have and what we do with those relationships.My advice would be to see this relationship through.Finish college and then maybe think about settling down.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 July 2009): Your focusing on the future to much, live everyday like it is your last. Forget about the future and worry about TODAY, about the ones you love and about the ones that matter the most.. education does not matter the most, yes it is a fundamental part of life and a necessity to build ones life for a better future.. but then again Tomorrow is never promised to come. In the end only love matters, and in the end does it really matter if u live in a big house or a small hut? As long as you are together then that is the main principle, people who know what love is will only realize this prospect. People who do not know what love is will only realize what is best for themselves, unless they are sacrificing ones freedom for the other. I know this is not the answer you are looking for, how do i know? from personal experience and where i am today. But I hope you understand what i am trying to portray. Take my advice young one, because when the time comes.. you will truly know what you were here for.Good luck with your journey.Master James sing.
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