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writes:Me and my ex have been talking again and it has become clear that we have trust issues. we both seem to be playing games with each other even though we dont intend to. we are both trying to make each other jealous by getting in with other people, which is putting a strain on our relationship. What do i need to do in order for him to trust me and not feel the need to get one up on me?
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reader, busy04  +, writes (20 July 2009):
 Ok STOP the tape! Listen to what you're saying:
"Me and my ex have been talking again": talking in what way? Are you dating again or just having conversation? Cause if you're just conversating, then there was no need for this post.
"we are both trying to make each other jealous by getting in with other people, which is putting a strain on our relationship":
If he's an EX, then what relationship are you putting a strain on? You two are either done with or not, make up your mind!
You say: "What do i need to do in order for him to trust me?" Why is there a need for trust if you're not with him?
You say: "it has become clear that we have trust issues". Honey there is no relationship without trust & you cannot make anyone trust you. Trust starts from the inside of a person. You can be faithful & committed 24/7, but if the other person has not opened their self to trust & settled their issues with it in themselves: then it can't be done.
You need to stop playing games, get serious or get lost! Stop wasting each others times, stop being silly! If you both want to make things work, then make it work, if not: bug off from each other. It's not rocket science!
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reader, baybee-x-sparkii +, writes (20 July 2009):
 you kinda answered the question yourself- if you dont get in with other people as you put it it shows that your reliable and trustworthy and especially with guys- if your putting yourself in that situation who knows what could happen
be careful lovey :)
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