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writes:my boyfriend and i have a very close relationship we've been on and off but recently he's been calling me a bitch a slag and a c**t wen i say thats rude he always replies with im jokin but is he really joking but i love him so much i could never leave him but i just want to know why he's doing this please help me x Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 August 2009): im sorry to tell you this but your boyfriend is an asshole. he isnt kidding around so you deserve better. tell him to go fly a kite because no one deserves to be called that, i have been in a relationship like that b4, i was with him for about 3 years and i totally fell for him and let him just keep doing it. tell you boyfriend that if he wants to go tell anyone taht then he needs to go fuck a guy. you need to get over him for good, dump him then go party or pick up a activity. that is the best thing you could do.
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reader, Tisha-1  +, writes (20 July 2009):
 Run your relationship through this screening tool: http://www.mental-health-matters.com/index.php?option=com_content&view=article&id=171
If he keeps doing it and he knows it's hurtful, then he is doing it deliberately. I personally wouldn't tolerate it. Good luck, and please take care of yourself.
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reader, babymama99 +, writes (20 July 2009):
 The next time he calls you a name you call him a limp dick, bastard. then smile and say oh just kidding.
Most people who do stuff like this can dish it out but they can't take it. When he realizes that you can "joke" the same way he can he'll stop.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (20 July 2009):
 Because your BF is an asshat. Sorry it is not funny to call your partner "rude names".
How do you think he would like for you to call him names?
I don't understand why you accept this treatment fro someone who claims he loves you. He certainly doesn't respect you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 July 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks for helping
i shall let you kno how it goes
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 July 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks for the advice i will do that great help and many thanks xelliex
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reader, boo22 +, writes (20 July 2009):
 Im sorry hun but why even bother writing if you say your never gonna leave him. You sound like a young lady with rock bottom self esteem. He says these awful things to you because HE CAN!! you allow it, so he'll keep doing it, and it'll get worse i promise. It sounds like you want some guy at any cost to your soul. I bet he woudnt put up with it so why do you?? Make him respect you, lay the law down or dump his sorry ass!! good luck x
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 July 2009): Mine does this all the time, and then actually uses these names in arguments, which is very upsetting!
This is totally unfair, and i can't really suggest what to do as I have'nt managed to stop it!
But I think you need to have a good chat with him, tell him that he is hurting you with these names and ask if there is a reason why they have suddenly started.
This is edging on emotional abuse and eventually, whether he is joking or not, the names will begin to eat away at your self esteem.
Best of luck!
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reader, ilovebowsandcherries +, writes (20 July 2009):
 i don't think he is joking if he truly loved you he wouldn't call you these names.
i mean why not talk to him find out why he really says these things?
i mean even as a joke it's hurtful
he shouldn't say these kind of things to a girl he's meant to love!
have a long chat with him i mean you say you don't want to leave him but if he's being that spiteful maybe you should give him a taste of his own medicine or call him nasty names see how he takes it!
call him a wanker knobhead so on and so forth just so he knows how it feels.
hope this helps :)
x ilovebowsandcherries x
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reader, Chelle.x +, writes (20 July 2009):
 I don't understand why your boyfriend would call you these things ? You must be so confused.. Next time he calls you a name say something like "why'd you keep calling me that ? If it's a joke then it isn't a funny one. Maybe you don't realise it but when you call me all these things your hurting me. I love you and I would never do anything to hurt you so why are you doing it to me ?" See what his reaction is, tell him that your not going to continue being called names by the man you love.
Let me know what happens hun
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