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female
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36-40,
anonymous
writes:Here it goes. My boyfriend and I have been together for about a year now. Lately he has been developing this habit of stating that he'll call 'later' that day, only to not do so. His excuses range from being really stressed and busy to having his mind on his band's tour/shows/practices/merchandise. Granted, the guy does have a lot on his mind, and he does blow off his friends too when it comes to phone calls, but one day he blew off not calling even though it was to give me important information on when we were going to see each other before his tour. Granted he has never ignores my calls. He'll pick up even if he's at a show. But he rarely takes the initiative anymore. I confronted him about taking consideration when the calls are actually important. He said he would try his best to change. Fat chance. Now that he's on tour, of course I'm the one that always calls. And when I do get a hold of him, it's for ten minutes every two days. The big thing though that really bothers me is that he stated before he left that he wasn't going to drink at all while on tour. But of course, I called him and he said 'oh we are doing an alcohol run right now. Today was a bad day.' I wouldn't care that he was drinking. Really I wouldn't. But he told me right to my face he wasn't going to. I said this reasoning and he shrugged it off saying 'I'm only going to drink one beer. Don't worry about it.' One guy in the band is even talking about going to strip clubs. My boyfriend has always said that he would never go to one, and that he is uncomfortable with me going to one as well. But now that he has admitted to lying about the drinking thing, not to mention saying he'll call but never does, I don't know if I can trust him. I really wouldn't care if he didn't call often, drank on tour, and went to wherever he goes if he was up front about it. The fact that he goes out of his way to tell me one thing but do another is what bothers me. I don't know. Am I overreacting? He doesn't ignore me by any means. And he was up front about the fact that they were going to pick up alcohol. Just throwing my thoughts out. Let me know what you think.
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reader, RAINORFIRE +, writes (20 July 2009):
 I think you shouldnt worry so mutch about what your bf is doing what are you doing hmmm its the middle of summer what have you acomplished 40 years from now when you think back what memories will you have for the summer of the last year of the first decade in the 21st century. you can worry yourself to death the bottom line is your bf is a young man in a band surounded by other men doing typical man things honestly you dont want to kno the truth stop being a ball and chain to this guy no drinking no clubbing etc your backing him into a corner and becuse hes insecure and unsure of himself he lies. hes a man only human so he lied its not the end of the world people make mistakes, and theres probably mutch more hes not telling you even if you knew what are you going to do about it. do you plan to marry this guy can you see yourself with him in 30 years.
Start worrying about you take you out go shopping get your nails done listen to some Beyonce give a few guys your number im sure they will call. as for your bf let him go be ha rockstar because your relationship doesnt seem to eb a priority for him, good luck
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