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writes:ok guys heres my problem . i have had a troubled life and having some mental health disoders does not help (ADHD ect) . its just lucky i have a lovely family who i can talk to . My problem is a nasty neighbour . it all began many years ago (when i was a young boy ) we had a lovely indian neighbour next door, who was very friendly and kind but the one opposite chris didnt like him as chris is a racist . My dad and family got on with the indian neighbour fine and my dad stuck up for him to this chris well the nice neighbour left and thats when the problems started .......with my behavioural problems yes i did have arguments with my family this chris used to glare at me and get his kids to glare as well ....... then he started shouting abuse at my farther . each day when he goes to work he revs his car engine to intimidate his even tryed to knock my dad off his bike and he said 'il get you next time b*stard) and also he glared at me when i passed my driving test he was shouting abuse ..... one evening there was no place to park so i told my mum to park on the road .. outside his house - its a public road anyone can park he ordered us to move it and was threatening and trying to intimidate me he even went to hit me when i was 16 years old ....he slags off my family to everyone shouts abuse at me and his wife joins in and she thinks shes better than everyone eles .... what his doing is against the law isnt it ? the thing is i have been to the police and my parents told me to not go through with it as you dont know what this chris will do im frightened that if i try and do something he will; damage my car or parents property ..... the thing is chris has a family 1 son and 2 daughters they know what he is doing and il tell you this if that was my father i would be disgusted with him and yet his daughters snipe bitchy comments and i dont need it i have an anxiety disorder ....... what would you guys do i just feel so stuck ..... also i learned that chris's wife had a miscarriage the same year i was born . the wife even said to my mother why couldnt it have been your son (me in other words) when i was born i developed complications i burst both lungs and died twice the doctors resusatated me and im thankful to be alive and that was the time my problems kicked in as ADHD occurs sometimes from having a complicated birth . I hate chris's wife for saying that they went on to have a son the year after i was born . why should i feel guilty for living - i have done nothing wrong . i just feel soooo upset sometimes me and my family shouldnt have to put up with their crap . we have done nothing wrong . well im going to try and make something of my life they say things happen to make you stronger and i know im going to make it to university and have a great life ahead of me i just need to survive and not give up on my dreams ...... i was even told once i am a fighter and survivor . i have been through so much - been bullyed at school , man y emotional issues . Guys what would you do
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 August 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks guys - i wish they could go away for good . its made me stronger as a person and you are all right they are scum they think they have made it because they have money - glorified scum . they arnt getting better they keep starring and making abusive comments ....... i just hope there kalma catches up with them a whole 15 years worth ..... im goinmg to keep a record of events .
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 July 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you all for your answeres ,
it just upsets me that i have my own problems than have to deal with this on my own door step . what makes me sick is his kids dont do anything ..... if that was my farther i would disown him. they are just as bad as him arnt they ?
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reader, DrPsych +, writes (20 July 2009):
 I agree with the others comments. You can contact the police and your family need to keep a diary of harrassment events as they happen. You should also find out who the police community support officer is for your area and make contact with them too. If this man is bullying your family then there is every chance he has upset other people in your area and he may have previous-history with the police. You should also do your homework as to his housing status - if he rents his home from a social housing association or the council then your parents should get in touch with the local authority. If you are not sure you can do a search on the land-registry website and pull the record of ownership for a few pound. Local authorities now have special powers to evict antisocial tenants. Even if he is a private tenant they can get involved with the landlord - but they are much more likely to take it seriously if you have already involved the police. Your parents could get CCTV fitted to your home to record any incidents that take place on their property.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 July 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you for your answers - it has really cheered me up
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 July 2009): Sounds like your neighbour and his family are scum. I wouldn't worry too much about it, scum always die alone and unloved, because pretty much everyone is able to see what they're like.Seriously, go to the police. Your dad is right to be worried about what this mentalist might do, but if he does do anything after you've already got a harassment, threats of violence or intimidation charge on him, it's straight to jail for Mr. Scum. The fact that you've not called it in so far is the reason why he's been able to get away with things like racism and attempted murder. He thinks your family is a soft target, and he won't get in trouble for attempting to bully you. Show him you're not that easy, and you've got a lot of hard men with batons and CS spray to back you up.Also, next time he's making threats or the like, get a camera and film him. Then tell him if he doesn't back off right now, it's going to the police. He'll try and call your bluff - so call the police, get them to watch it, mention about all the previous bullying and they'll have a word with him. Not nice words, either. See if you can film him then, too - you might enjoy watching him wet himself later on.
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reader, Starlights +, writes (20 July 2009):
 your neighbour chris is a bully and he knows he can get away with it thats why he does what he does.your family seem not to want trouble hence why they dont report him, but what chris is doing is illegal its harassment and police do take this type of behaviour seriously.if your family dont want u to go through reporting chris there is not much u can do. better to ignore this chris and his family and their cruel remarks, but trust me what goes around does come around.chris and his family will get their just desserts. you wait and see.til then try not to get worked up about all this and concentrate on getting to university, after all you have a wonderful family who support u, and thats all that matters.good luck!
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