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female
age
41-50,
anonymous
writes:We once had a very strong intimate relationship with commitment and then it changed due to outside circumstances. Now time has passed - months - but we are talking again and slowly getting close. But how do I know what to expect? Men don't talk, especailly him, about relationships but I would like to have an idea of what is going on. Or is it too soon to ask a few weeks. I can be friends but I can not be friends having sex. Should I just wait it out a bit longer and see what happens and take it slow and easy? In the meantime as much as I want him and love him I don't want to waste time. I always thought if a guy really loves you would know it and that is how it has always been. Do I just hang out with him and keep it light and let it progress naturally? Or do I push it along and call him to get things moving faster? How much time is too much time to give? If I have to move on I will. I almost had moved and belive me it was hard and gut wrenching and now he is back but not to the way it was. Should I just take it as a new beginning and go slow waiting for him to iniate. I know with this small town gossip they told us both that I had a b/f and he had a g/f but I don't and told him and he said oh I will have to take you to dinner. What should I do? Eaten up inside. I really love this stubborn man.
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reader, rcn +, writes (20 July 2009):
 satindesire is right. men don't just volunteer information. doing so mean talking about emotions, which most men try to avoid. You also need to be honest about what it is you're looking for. If its a long term relationship or not, so you know where he sits and what he's really looking for. Setting boundaries before hand. It's sad when someone get into a relationship, where one person wants long-term and the other one just wants to play. This can be avoided by discussing what both of you want before beginning.
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reader, rcn +, writes (20 July 2009):
satindesire is right. men don't just volunteer information. doing so mean talking about emotions, which most men try to avoid. You also need to be honest about what it is you're looking for. If its a long term relationship or not, so you know where he sits and what he's really looking for. Setting boundaries before hand. It's sad when someone get into a relationship, where one person wants long-term and the other one just wants to play. This can be avoided by discussing what both of you want before beginning.
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