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writes:I am 13 and have a boy friend who is 15 ..... we have been together for 5 months and i really trust him .. a couple of nights ago we were kissing on the sofa and then he put his hands down the front of my pants ... i said not yet and he stopped ... and i felt really horrible but he ALWAYS takes it too far... how do i get him to stop taking it too far but not in a nasty way???? .... :S
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 July 2009): hey, he's got to give you your time! tell him ur not ready for it, cos guys at this age are generally more interested in making out and having sex than anything else, while girls just wanna hang around and have fun. dont let him take things too far, if he does, then he doesnt respect you the way you ought to be. SO as of now, tell him politely that ur not ready
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reader, Vane  +, writes (21 July 2009):
 hi there..
tell him you're not ready & that he should respect your choices. its your body! & if he doesn't stop, you shouldn't be with him for any longer. it might hurt to do that but it will be for the best. good luck honey! message me if u would like to talk..
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (20 July 2009):
He's always going to give things a try. It's in every teenage boy's nature to try and push his luck a bit.
So you need to talk to him and just be honest. Tell him you really really like him but you aren't ready for that kind of thing yet.
As a girl you are ALWAYS going to be in charge of saying stop. Men will always try and make moves. They don't take offence so there is no harm in telling them to wait.
Trust me when I say from BITTER experience that they will respect you more if you wait. Don't give anything away too soon if you like a boy.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, Livelife +, writes (20 July 2009):
I agree with the other posters, just talk to him about it and say that you aren't comfortable with that yet and you want to wait to do that type of thing. He should understand, and if he doesn't then maybe there's something you should think about before continuing going out with him if he's often pushy about it. If you need any other advice you can message me or anyone else here and we'll be glad to help. Good luck with things! :)
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reader, Rachel O +, writes (20 July 2009):
 sit down with him and tell how youu feel about him taking things too far and that you really dont like it, say to him that your not ready for that sort of stuff yet.
if he loved you he should understand.
Good Luck x
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reader, cemoi +, writes (20 July 2009):
you should talk to him about this when you're not making out. tell him you like him and that you trust him but that you want to take things slow and that he shouldn't go to far. then tell him what too far is. don't let him change your mind about it - you're reaaady when you're ready.
Good luck
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reader, finchy +, writes (20 July 2009):
 Tell him you're not ready for that kind of thing yet. And you'll let him know when you are. You're far too young to be thinking about that kind of stuff. You should be out with your friends having fun like all young teenagers. :)xxxx(Mod note to finchy: Please do NOT start every word with a capital letter or your answers will be binned. I put this one through as the advice was good but had to retype the answer. - Thank you.)
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reader, cute angel  +, writes (20 July 2009):
 well just say that you are not ready and that both of u are too young for this
he should understand if he is sensible enough
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