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female
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41-50,
anonymous
writes:sorry this is long, need adviceIve been a quieter person all my life and have always only had a very small group of friends, none of who I have ever thought of as a best friend, they are just friend who i see occasioanlly, not friends who i could call if i was sick or sad or needed someone to listen to, as for a hug if im sad - that has rarely happened. I just dont have anyone and have learn that this is just how my life is.. Im a shift worker and I enjoy my job - this stops me from participating in regular hobbies or doing anything on a regular basis as my shifts vary. im not going to leave my job! At work i get along with ppl i work with, can say hi a and make small talk but have no friends.In the past year or so I have made a friend and thought we were best friends,I have been terh for hr a lot and we got very close (friendship only!!) and saw each other regualrly. Then in the past 9 weeks my freind, who is very outgoing and witty has made friends with another woman, married with a small child that adores my friend. She is also outgoing and confident and they have become close, this woman has $ and buys my freind alcohol and dinners (f/ship only!) they will soon work together, see each other every wkend, with her being my freinds eventual boss.so we all need more than one freind - i know this - but i have never had a best freind before and now my freind is closing the door on me and opening it to this more outgoing woman. i still see her but she is very caught up in her new f.ship thats she sems to not see how i feelwhat do I do? talk to her and risk her sarcasmso here i am - almost alone again and so sick of this..very hurt herethanks
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 July 2009): U can try asking your friend this... "what is more important...friendship or money". And see what happens.Or she is just meeting new ppl. When u meet a new person u tend to hang out with them more and be more friendly with them. that is probaly all she is doing
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