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Archived questions from: February, 2009 (see latest in Troubled relationships category)

Troubled relationships: Help and advice

Should I break up because of a sparkless kiss?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 5684 days ago

28 February 2009 (F) - I haven't kissed my boyfriend because I'm nervous. I won't feel the sparks like eveyone says, I really like him honestly I don't want to wreck it with a kiss and I don't want him to end it because I'm a bad kisser. I never kissed anyone so how do I ...

Every time we get really close he seems to pull away.

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5736 days ago

28 February 2009 (F) - Every time we get really close he seems to pull away. I know he was very hurt before by a girl he loved and who was very disrespectful to him not even going to his mothers funeral and they lived together for years. with me he loves but yet will ...

Why would girls prefer the chasing of a guy instead of the safety of a relationship?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5736 days ago

28 February 2009 (M) - So I just had to break up with my gf of 7 months today because I found out that a month earlier while we took a one week break she asked an ex of hers out and only took me back because he rejected her. I know it's not like she cheated on me but ...

What should I do here for the best? I'm so confused!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5736 days ago

28 February 2009 (F) - Well I feel kind of silly asking strangers for help but I don't know what else to do or who else to ask. I was a single parent for a couple of years when I met my current partner, at first it seemed like the ideal relationship, he showed interest...

Why does he tell me he wants me and to marry me but doesn't do nothing?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5736 days ago

28 February 2009 (F) - Please help. What is it with me. I spilt up with my ex 6 months ago. I have thought bout him everyday missing him. Wishing he was here. Wandering what hes doing.wanting him back. He has just come to me and said that he loves me so much and realises ...

He had sex, said he loved me but now says we shouldn't be together

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5736 days ago

28 February 2009 (F) - i met a guy in may 07 whom i work with. he is muslim and very religious. we were instantly attracted to each other and started to spend alot of time together. one thing led to another and we had sex. things changed as this was wrong in his bel...

I accepted his apologies, why doesn't he accept mine?

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28 February 2009 (F) - I got jealous and was mad and Hurt. In turn i hurt him because he looked at differently and saidthat I was being disrpectful. Which looking back I was rude and disrespectful but I was enraged. things appeared to be different than they were. After ...

He's having sex with someone else, but he finds no problem telling me about it.

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5735 days ago

28 February 2009 (F) - My boyfriend and I been going through some shit lately. He's having sex with someone else, but he finds no problem telling me about it. He tells me it's only because of the kids he loves me, so it's best if we keep just a friendly relationship. ...

My boyfriend's best friend is unconsciously trying to sabotage our relationship!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5736 days ago

28 February 2009 (F) - I think my boyfriend's best friend is unconsciously trying to sabotage our relationship! His best friend is a girl and anyone with working eyes can see she has a thing for him. My boyfriend insists they are just friends, though. But when he says ...

How can I stop this mindset and get over him?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5736 days ago

28 February 2009 (F) - I lived with Tim for 8 years. We owned a home together and moved out last April. Main problem was his ex-wife and his kids. The Ex harrassed and stalked me during those years, I did have a restraining order and she broke it 21 times. The kids ...

What can I do? My boyfriend is in love with his ex!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5736 days ago

28 February 2009 (F) - My boyfriend is still in love with his ex!! I asked him to tell me truth if he still loved her and he said yes but he really doesn't want to be, they split up years ago but this is the only woman he's ever been in love with and the only woman th...

She's looking for a job in the states but I want her to come and live with me.

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5736 days ago

28 February 2009 (M) - I am having this LDR for 4 years now... My girlfriend went to the usa to study and I remained in Holland where I have my own House, and a good job. My girlfriend don`t want to move back to europe because she has a better job opportunity in the ...

Can you suggest ways that I should confront him?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5736 days ago

28 February 2009 (F) - I did quite a bad thing: I know my boyfriend's email password and decided to check his mail last week. I came across photograph's of a young man in his underwear with captions. Obviously I want to confront him about this, but without him finding out ...

Is it just a guy thing? Does he need time apart from me?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5736 days ago

28 February 2009 (F) - Do you think this is normal? Is it just a guy versus girl thing? He needs space when there is a problem I need to talk and get resolution. I called him 3 times, this a.m. and he said I am starting to push him away. Now I understand he needs time ...

Am I too controlling?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5736 days ago

28 February 2009 (F) - When he gets angry he needs to take time to himself. I think that things should be talked about immediatley and resolved. I just called him and he said that by me calling him I am pushing him away and that he just needs time to get over his anger. ...

He only ever sees his side of the story!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5736 days ago

28 February 2009 (F) - We get along perfectly. We love each other but when we have an issue he won't work on it and runs away into his cave. I don't understand this. Why won't he try to work on it. We love each other and when we are together it is fabulous, it is when ...

He got mad and now he's throwing it all away

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5736 days ago

28 February 2009 (F) - He is so stubborn. He got mad and now is throwing it away. I am not perfect all the time. Should i keep calling him or just let him walk away. And I will suffter and cry. I know in my heart he loves me which makes this so hard, he is very good ...

What do I do? Should I avoid her calls? Is she just upset I can't provide for her?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5736 days ago

28 February 2009 (M) - My girlfriend and I have dated for almost a year now, but we've dated in the past as well. We've known eachother for a little over 15 years now. Things didn't get really serious till recently, talking about marriage and children and all of that ...

I feel bad for treating him like this and he keeps on forgiving me, what is wrong with me?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5736 days ago

28 February 2009 (F) - I moved to Denmark half a year ago to be with my absoloutely wonderful boyfriend. but I have been acting strangely lately towards him I can't understand why or where that comes from. I was very depressed for some time because I had no friends, the ...

I'm unsure about whether I should give the relationship another try if we live closer to each other in the future?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5737 days ago

28 February 2009 (F) - I was in a long distance relationship with a guy who lives many miles away from me for 8 months. We recently broke up after I found out that the entire relationship was almost all lies. He has cheated on me twice, lied about his sexual past, and ...

Am I supposed to wait for her or say to heck with it?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5737 days ago

28 February 2009 (M) - Last June my best friend got married. As bestman i escorted the Brides cousin down the isle. During the rehearsal and wedding we had so much fun. we just clicked. We spent all last summer together. weather we were talking on the phone or going out ...

She thought I called her ugly and fat, how can I fix this?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5737 days ago

28 February 2009 (M) - ok i need some help about this. this afternoon i went over to my g/f's house and its mostly everytime i go there we end up touching each other or having sex. so today when i went over her house i told her that we could only go up to the touching ...

Is she pushing me away because she thinks we're moving too fast?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5737 days ago

28 February 2009 (M) - so here it goes.... I met a great girl at the start of the year. We went out...went out again two days later ended up having a wonderful time. Things were great, she'd call/text all the time, etc. Then two weeks into it, late at night she tells ...

Is he trying to make me feel jealous? Or is it something else?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5735 days ago

28 February 2009 (F) - Hi, Mi name is Sadie. Six months ago I became a counsellor at a camp for kids. I met a boy named Adrian. At first I would pass him straight because I was not interested in him. I was never even aware of his presence in a room. Two weeks la...

Should I tell on her?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5737 days ago

28 February 2009 (M) - Me and my girlfriend are going through a rough spell. We've dated for about 3 years. I'm a contractor and her house flooded. I did all the repairs, plus more since she's my girl. We'll I did everything but the floors and then found out that she has ...

Your comments are appreciated!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5736 days ago

27 February 2009 (F) - My b/f has been very much involved in the behaviour management of my 17 year old. My son is very intellient but very rude and argumentative and drives me mad and I have had to get social services and counselling organised for him. I turned to my ...

I'm being played for a fool and I don't know what to do!

This question has 116 answers - newest was posted 5714 days ago

27 February 2009 (F) - I DON'T KNOW WHAT TO DO....I'M BEING PLAYED FOR A FOOL. THIS IS A LONG STORY - WARNING - PLEASE READ IF YOU CAN forgive me for rambling before I start, I am at a loss what to do with this and I really need your advice To cut a long story short...

Is he just afraid?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5737 days ago

27 February 2009 (F) - He says he loves me in many ways. We were together for 8 months and broke up for 2 months. We got back together and it was great. But then there was some jealousy on his part due to an older man saying hello who knew both of us he said I should h...

Second thoughts? What could I do to improve?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5737 days ago

27 February 2009 (F) - I've been having thought of my own with my long time relationship going on for six years. He says he is happy with me, he gives me all that I could possibly think of emotionally. He's the perfect guy for me. We fit. Yet, it's been a week and I'v...

How can I get over always thinking he wants to be with her??

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5736 days ago

27 February 2009 (F) - My boyfriend cheated on me with his ex last year while i was heavily pregnant with our 2nd son, and even though i hated him at the time i took him back. Now our son is 4 months old, and our first born is 2, and my boyfriend wants us to start ha...

Knowing how serious they were...I'm not sure I can be with him anymore!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5737 days ago

27 February 2009 (F) - My partner cheated on me in 2007 but we got back together after 6 months, 4 of those months he was with the woman he cheated on me with. When we got back together he said that she'd meant nothing to him, that she just showed him some attentio...

How can I erase him from my head when she keeps talking about him??

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5737 days ago

27 February 2009 (F) - I cant get this out of my head and i know i should. I used to go out with this guy dave. when we started talkin, i found out he just got out of a on and off 3 month relationship. I didnt really care since he was single, because whats the harm in ...

He swears he won't hit me again, should I get back with my ex?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5737 days ago

27 February 2009 (F) - Should I get back together with my ex? I dated this guy almost a year ago we were together for 4 years before that. While dating, he did a lot of things to me. First everytime I wanted to hang out with my friends he would try to guilt trip me an...

Is there a possibility that I can get back with her?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5737 days ago

27 February 2009 (M) - We been couple for 2 years and we broke up because my parents didn't agree with her. Every day we always met each other, we are like the best couple in church. So I told her that I'm sorry I can't take you any more, but I still love you. Her heart ...

Is he really gay or is this a sick prank... I'm confused?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5737 days ago

27 February 2009 (F) - Ok so me and my boyfriend are on a break and I see him every once in a while because he is in college so I get on my facebook account and he's posted pictures of another reavealing his penis and the album title says my secret life and lover.. so ...

How can I win her trust back? I love her so very much.

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5737 days ago

27 February 2009 (M) - At the start of our relationship, I made the horrible decision to talk with some ex's in a way that I shouldn't. It was completely online, and I did not cheat physically in any way. To be frank, I was scared of the relationship I am in. It was ...

Whenever I want to discuss an issue my b/f gets defensive, what should I do?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5737 days ago

27 February 2009 (F) - How do you discuss an issue concerning your relationship with your boyfriend when his immediate reaction to the discussion is to get enraged and become distant. He is not able to have a non judgemental conversation or just hear you out about your ...

I feel more like a roommate than a lover

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5737 days ago

27 February 2009 (F) - My boyfriend and I just bought a house and moved in together, about 3 weeks ago. Before this we were living seperately with our parents. We saw each other often and the relationship was everything I could ask for, but since we have moved together ...

Bite the hand that cooks for you

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5737 days ago

27 February 2009 (F) - what would you do if your boy friend breif case is open and you went to get a stamp for your letter, and you find pictures of some women and him? what would you do or say?...

Our families won't accept we're getting married

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5737 days ago

27 February 2009 (F) - I’m 26 years old and have been engaged for 6months to my partner of 4 years. I can’t wait to spend the rest of my life with this man who is truly the love of my life and want to start planning the wedding, but both of our families are against it. ...

Should I try and talk to him or just let him go?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5737 days ago

27 February 2009 (F) - His jealousy makes him angry and he gets himself very upset. He is not one to handle any type of emotional strife of any sort. But instead of talking about things and working through it he would rather walk away. He says he cant have any roller ...

Would it be sensible to hold off on the military until I'm divorced?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5737 days ago

27 February 2009 (F) - okay, so im leaving for basic within the next two months, I have been dating my boyfriend for awhile now...and when i say awhile, im not talkin about more than a year. I love him to death, i would take a bullet for this man. Here is the probl...

Is he just not that into me?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5737 days ago

27 February 2009 (F) - ive been going out with this guy for the past 3 months. we're both in the university. even if were dating, our status is still just friends because he doesnt want to have a relationship. it started this way. one day when we went out, we started ...

If he has changed his mind about me why does he not man up to tell me?

This question has 16 answers - newest was posted 5732 days ago

27 February 2009 (F) - I was on holiday in France for 3 weeks over Christmas and new year and i met up with a guy who I had met and got with 6 years ago. He works and lives there. He was very keen on me and having just come out of a long relationship, i was hesitant. I ...

Will it really take 7 years to get over my abusive relationship?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5737 days ago

27 February 2009 (F) - I have been having these emotional outbursts from anger to sobbing but mostly sobbing for the last couple of days feeling so bad for my man how much I am going to miss him, the pain he must be going through to why did he do this to me, goodness you ...

Is my ex trying to get a certain reaction from me by being so mean to me?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5737 days ago

27 February 2009 (F) - Dear everyone My ex bf is being really horrible 2 me, we stayed friends after we split in november last yr,he now has a gf, but he says im hounding him,and ot getting over him,and on sunday he had a huge go at me over the phone,saying he ...

I don't wanna lose her because of the way I acted lately!!!!!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5738 days ago

27 February 2009 (M) - Hi, im 15 and my gf is 14, in three days will be our five monthiversary, BUT, lately, ive been acting like a bit of a jerk to her. Now, ive apoligized, and were ok now, BUT, after i needed someone to listen to my troubles, she told me tht mayb we ...

Should I be loyal to a relationship that no longer exists?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5623 days ago

27 February 2009 (F) - My girlfriend abruptly broke up with me about 5 weeks ago after I had confessed to her that I had been doing speed for a week straight. A quick background: She left a abusive relationship in June. We became exclusive in November. She had d...

Do I break up with my g/f and see the new girl?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5738 days ago

27 February 2009 (M) - I have a fairly common question, but would like to know the answer for my specific question. I have been dating my girlfriend for a year. I have been attracted to her for 4 years and we were friends during that time as well. We both left for coll...

Do drunken mistakes really exist?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 5737 days ago

27 February 2009 (F) - My boyfriend and I have had a rocky relationship, in which we just went through a period of saving it. We came clean about everything we had done, and he told me he had slept with one of his best friends, who was also living in the room next to him ...