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writes:How do you discuss an issue concerning your relationship with your boyfriend when his immediate reaction to the discussion is to get enraged and become distant. He is not able to have a non judgemental conversation or just hear you out about your issues with the relationship but just gets defensive when he finds out that the relationship is not in fact PERFECT! Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 February 2009): Sounds like he has some issues to say the least and I'd talk to him about things one more time, in a calm manner.
If he still insists on blowing up and refuses to listen then your answer is clear, walk away and let him have some private time to consider what he will lose. Let him call you and if not, maybe your better off w/out him really.
Life is to short to take on "projects" and you deserve to have a man that treats you like his princess! Best of luck.
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reader, Janicp14 +, writes (27 February 2009):
Sometimes, we don't realize that we actually DO come across as offensive. The best way is to wait for a time when you are alone together and both in a good or calm mood. Then say something along the lines of, "Honey, I love you so much, and I just want you to know that no matter what I will be here with you and try my best to make things work." From there, you can say "I don't want you to be upset by this, because I really mean this in the nicest way possible, but it hurts/bothers me when you......" and just keep reminding him that you're not mad at him, but you just want your relationship to be everything it can be and that includes communication about things that aren't too great, because no relationship is perfect and every two people are different, problems are bound to arise, but you still love him and want to work past them.
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