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writes:When he gets angry he needs to take time to himself. I think that things should be talked about immediatley and resolved. I just called him and he said that by me calling him I am pushing him away and that he just needs time to get over his anger. He is stubborn but he loves me and even on our last fight he took quite some time but we get back and it was wonderful. He is a caveman. Do I just need to lighten up? How much time to I give him. He has not been with anyone else and his friends say he loves me. He is just tough. I almost feel that he thinks he is teaching me a lesson. I cant help it that I got jeaalous - I was wrong but things appeared differently than they were and I apologized. Maybe I am a bit controlling. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 February 2009): As a good friend of mine always reminds me...Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus! He needs what he needs! Give him his time! I'm not saying that you should sweep problems under the carpet...that's a huge mistake! But men need more time to reflect. Women need to talk about it! We have to remember to respect our partners needs. Armymedic got it right! To insist that he talk about before he has processed it, could be worse!
Good Luck and be patient!
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reader, ArmyMedic  +, writes (28 February 2009):
 If I get angry I walk away, and take some time to clear my head and think rationally. If I stayed and argued, I would say hurtful things and upset my wife. So yes men are all cavemen deep down but the ones that walk away are less likely to cause huge rows or even get violent.
I only need ten minutes to and hour to calm down, and I think any longer than that is just being a bit dramatic.
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reader, PS05 +, writes (28 February 2009):
People deal with things differently.I'm just like you, I want immediate results to problems. If I have a problem, I want to talk it out now, fix it now, and be happy in five minutes.However, there are people who aren't like us... people just have different styles of dealing with issues I guess.
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