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Is my ex trying to get a certain reaction from me by being so mean to me?

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Question - (27 February 2009) 2 Answers - (Newest, 27 February 2009)
A female United Kingdom age 36-40, anonymous writes:

Dear everyone

My ex bf is being really horrible 2 me, we stayed friends after we split in november last yr,he now has a gf, but he says im hounding him,and ot getting over him,and on sunday he had a huge go at me over the phone,saying he will speak 2 me when hes ready,well i tried phoneing him and and he put the phone down on me, then yesterday he rang my freind also mine and said that his new gf is feed up with me down the pub,

The thing is im nt going 2 stop going down the pub because of him, also he told me the reason why he doesnt go down th pub anymore is because of me,

Ive never done anything 2 him apart from be nice to him, and now hes treating me like crap,

The reason why because someone down the pub said that ive told them that he rings and phones me all the time which is not true,

He said yesterday when i walked in2 the pub look who it is my stalker 2 my mate and his gf

Also when he walked past me last nite he didnt look at me, but when he walked 2 the toilet he was looking at me, 2 see if i was doing anything,

Why is he doing this 2 me? i think the world of him can he not see that?

shell i just let him cool down?

or is he trying 2 get some sort of reaction frm me from him being like this?

Please help im so confused

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A female reader, Honeypie United States +, writes (27 February 2009):

Honeypie agony auntHe's your ex, stop having contact to him. You are hanging on to something that is not "yours" no more. The fact that he is abusive is all the more reason for you to cut ALL contact. Concentrate on you. On your life, don't waste time on him anymore. Put him in the past where he belongs.

Maybe pick another pub to frequent for a while.

He is most likely unhappy with things in his life and YOU are his punching bag. Don't take that kinda crap from anyone. Block his phone number and move on honey, he isn't worth another wasted minute.

You wrote you two stayed friends.. Friends don't verbally abuse or bully each other.

On a second note, it might be the GF is jealous and he's trying hard to show her your mean nothing to him. So return the favor and ignore the sod.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (27 February 2009):

Think you have to also play your part and give him space (and her) just minimal contact - you have no reason to phone? (e.g. kids). If you guys are meant to be friends it will happen, but you have to give them space. No contact etc.

Hugs. Star.X.

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