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male
age
36-40,
*uaris
writes:So I just had to break up with my gf of 7 months today because I found out that a month earlier while we took a one week break she asked an ex of hers out and only took me back because he rejected her. I know it's not like she cheated on me but that's still a shitty thing to do to someone right? I did everything for this girl for half of a year of my life just so she could try and get with other guys and then come back to me saying how she missed me the whole time and lie to me when I ask her if she tried to get with anyone during that week. I talked to her older sister and she explained how teenage girls just like to play around with their influences on guys and stuff. I guess I just wanna know why this is. Why would girls prefer the chasing of a guy instead of the safety of a relationship. By the way I don't think it's because of physical attraction because the other guy is really ugly. People have even said that about him before I was even dating her so it's not like she's shallow and just wants a hotter guy, it's that she truly prefers chasing rather than catching and I don't understand why this is.
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reader, Emilysanswers  +, writes (1 March 2009):
You've asked this before and got some good answers then, so take that advice and move on.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, happytochat  +, writes (1 March 2009):
I know alot of guys like that actually. They love the thrill of the chase, but once they catch it, they throw it away like rubbish.
So its not just a girl thing at all, and its not a guy thing either. Both sexes do that and I think thats important for you to realise, as it would be very unhealthy for you to have such negative views of females.
So why do people do that?
Well I think it all comes down to insecurity. They dont beleive in themself. They dont think to highly of themselves, therefore they feel a need to PROVE that they could get lots of guys/girls. So, they go out chasing all these guys/girls in order to see how 'good they truly are', once they catch the person, thats it, they didnt really want them, they just wanted the temporary ego boost it proivdes catching someone.
I am sorry what your gf did to you, that was really horrible of her. You deserve someone who will treat you alot better, so I suggest you try to move on from her and find someone better.
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