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writes:i met a guy in may 07 whom i work with. he is muslim and very religious.we were instantly attracted to each other and started to spend alot of time together.one thing led to another and we had sex. things changed as this was wrong in his beliefs so we tried to be just friends for a while. this didnt seem to work and he never wanted to marry so he decided it best if we stopped contact outside of work.we didnt see each other for 2 weeks until he called me to meet. we met on 1st january when he said he loved me and would i marry him.i was extatic as i loved him dearlyhe asked one thing of me which was not to let him kiss touch hold me until we were married.i kept questioning him and pushing him until we slept together again.after that he changed. he said we were not compatible and it was not right to continue. he said feelingd do not matter if the mind thinks its not right.since then 3 weeks ago he wont talk about us at all. in fact he said we should not be in contact until i stop thinking about us being together.he said no one knows what will happen in future.he said we may be friends we maybe close friends we may even get married but no one knows.he suggested we start as if we have never met before. i asked is this to get to know me and he said how do we know if we want to get to know each other when we have not met yet.im so confusedwhat should i do?
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reader, sweetcheeks3030 +, writes (28 February 2009):
 it sounds like he really likes you and wanted you to respect his beliefs! questioning him and putting him under pressure got what you wanted but sounds as though he felt he had betrayed what he believed in.
if you care that much for someone you should respect their wishes however hard it may be.
it sounds like hes giving you another chance to put things right and though i dont believe in one person calling the shots he did ask you to marry him which says alot and proves he really cares for you...i think you either need to respect his religion and agree to what he wants or cut your losses and move on.
good luck huni.xx
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