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writes: hey im inlove with dis guy we now ha almost three years together i do really love him,but problem is that im sure if he really love me.we broke up for ten tyms and make up again my problem is,is he using me until he gt the love of his life cuase he always tel me dat he love me but he is not ready for a serios relationship.but when i broke up with thinking i shuold move on with my lie he always come back and ask for another chance,im confused i dont know what to do cuase i really love this guy very much.plz help me if he is not the one how can let him go
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reader, hijacked_dignity  +, writes (16 November 2009):
 You have to ask yourself if you are happy with this guy, and is he happy with you. Does he treat you right? Are the problems when you break up really serious? Does he cheat on you? Does he abuse you? Does he disrespect you? I mean I guess it all boils down to the reasoning behind the break ups. If it's just small little fights that happen and you get annoyed, leading to break up with him, then that's normal in a way. People who date sometimes break up multiple times before finally settling down, it's all questioning if you feel he is right for you. And I think you know whether he really loves you or not. If you break up with him and he always keeps coming back for you, that might be a good sign for things.
I guess there isn't really enough information about exactly what the breakups are about.
What I don't get though is that you break up with him and he says that he's not ready for a serious relationship. How are you guys together but not in a serious relationship? That one point would have me thinking red flags, because if you two have been 'together' for three years and he isn't ready for something 'serious', then he's fooling himself and I think it might be better to move on if that's the case. Three years is an awfully long time to avoid something solid, and it isn't a good indication of the future. Best of luck to you.
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