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writes: Hi im 18 and my boyfriend is 20 and I have been dating my him for a year and some months now and we are in love but i havent told my mom. The reason for that is because she is so strict with me and i kno when i tell her i wont see him that much like i do now. but how do i actually break it off and just tell her? Another issue is that i kno she wont like him due to wut he done in the past but he is over that now and he is doing good. But basically wut im saying is my family dont like him but i met his family and they love me and think that i am the best girl for him and its driving me crazy how do i get over that? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 November 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks for the answers they really helped me
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reader, BlueBag  +, writes (16 November 2009):
 I was in the same situation with my boyfriend. He has a not-so-shiney past and my mum knew about a lot of it. She did not approve of me going out with him at all.
I told her he had changed completely, otherwise I would not be with him. But I was 21 so she didn't really have a say in who I wanted to be with so I continued to date him.
I eventually brought him home to meet my mum and he couldn't have been more charming towards her. He knew he had a lot of proving to do and he was willing to put every effort into showing her he had grown up and was not the person he used to be.
It took some time, she wasn't the most pleasent lady towards him to begin with but that didn't phase him. He continued to put as much effort into it as he could.
He eventually won her over and she can see past his past now and see him for who he has grown to become. He now lives at my house with my mum and its a very harmonious household.
At the end of the day, your boyfriend will have to make the effort to show that he has changed as he is the one coming into your family. He will have to expect a few knock-backs but if he is serious about being with you then he will endure them and try even harder.
You are an adult now so it is not up to your mum who you date but if you want to bring him home to meet her then he will have to prove he is worthy of you. As you will never stop being her child. :)
Hope this helps, keep us updated.
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