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*ierce
writes:I got reunited with my old childhood crush about a year and half ago. It had been 14 years since i seen or talked to him. Well, i spent time with him shortly after we got reunited, and i could see why i liked him all those years ago. We stayed in close contact even now. I was only single a couple months after we got reunited. Even with my now ex- boyfriend we continued to talk all the time. I have gone on two dates with him both times were awesome. We talk about twice a week oh by the way, we "text" he's not one who likes to talk on the phone. Anyway, we do some serious flurting i know he likes me he has told me and i can tell he does. He's a real nice guy and honestly, i'm drawn towards him i don't care what we do i just want to be near him. Here is the problem we ended up having the "talk" about what it is were doing yes i brought it up. He has told me he doesn't want titles right now that he is having fun being single. i do respect that. However, we talk and act like were a couple so, i wanted to know dude are we dating just good friends whats up? i feel close to him now like a boy fiend but, he is not my boyfriend. He has got me so wrapped around his finger... i don't care who i date if, he text me i'm so excited and write back. I do light up when his name appears on my phone. Its just a gut feeling but, we could make each other real happy i see he could bring out all the goodness in me and i just adore him so that i would not want to hurt him ever. During our "talk" he said that he liked me but was not ready for a relationship. He said he needed to work on himself... whatever. I respect that so, i told him maybe we should not talk so often. He replied back saying that is disappointing to hear and that he will not text me so if i wanted to chat with him he would def. responed. I plan on not texting him even tho i really really will want too. I'm just afraid that if we keep this up a close very close friendship or what ever we are i'm not sure? that he will never come around because he will feel i'm already his just with no comentment. I want to be in a relationship with him i don't want to always wonder about him you know. So I'm backing off for awhile. I know he will want to text me he'll probably hold off but, he will i just know it. Yikes this stupid game i hate it! I'll play it but, he has to know he can not keep me around forever! Just the thought of not conversing with him kills me!!!! i would never tell him this not being a couple and all but, i truly love him. I think to myself well why would he want a commentment i give him all a girlfriend would i make him feel sexy wanted ect... but what about my needs you know. What are your thoughts? I think i'm doing the right thing backing off but, you think i continue to stay close to and continue the way we are? I know tittles can be scary at times but, damn it we together it could be good i tell you real real good. Thanks for taking the time to read my drama lol !
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reader, Fierce +, writes (16 November 2009):
Fierce is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you for the advice!
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 November 2009): Sorry I disagree with the previous answer. You are absoultley right in that he has you where he wants. Its not about playing games its about valuing yourself and not waiting holding your breath for this man. Concentrate on your own life, speak to him ocasionally but keep it light short and friendly. He may realsie he wants you, but if not then he'd have never been yours and you will have wasted your emotions on him. There are other people out there! Good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 November 2009): Drama is right!Stop playing stupid games or he will think you aren't interested and go away.......
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