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writes:Some of my background:http://www.dearcupid.org/question/what-was-my-ex-thinking-when-he-wrote.htmlOn my birthday, I accidentally sent a message meant for my parents to my ex: "Sorry cannot accompany you in the afternoon...let's go for supper after my work :)" (PS: it was truly and honestly a mistake despite what it may seem like from the previous post, as his message was right at the top) He replied a day after: "happy belated bday!" As I saw the message, I realised that no matter what I told myself, how happy I appear to be on the outside, I truly truly loved him and couldn't ever afford to forget him. Despite what I've written previously, I realise I really have been waiting for a chance at reconciliation. I've been acting strong all along in front of everyone but I couldn't deceive myself once I'm alone with my thoughts to myself. It's been a year and a half for goodness sake! Yes it's only my first relationship, yet I can't believe it could be so intense, when I see people breaking up and getting together with other people all the time. At times I even wish I would be able to do that if only to ease the misery within myself...Sorry for ranting but I needed to get it out of my system. Anyway, what should I do with regards to the birthday message? Reply with a simple thanks, or just ignore, or what? What's the ideal way to deal with this? If to move on, how do I ever forget such an intense first love? I can't even look at other guys the same way as I do him :XThanks to those who manage to finish reading everything and being there for me :/
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 October 2012): I'm the original poster.I know, I really know that I need to move on. I've tried ways and means to be active and immerse myself in many activities. Ultimately, while I can be happy and hyper around my friends and family, some small little thing will remind me of him and I'll be all torn up again thinking of him and what we could have. I thought that first love usually might not last, but once I met him I knew that he was the one I want to spend my life with. Yet we parted, and I don't know the exact reason for the split, whether it's the age difference, or circumstances, or simply just feeling as it all came out of the blue. That might be why I was unable to put it down as I keep thinking that things could be put right if only we could work hard together.Regarding the birthday text, I was surprised as he stated that he would not reply my messages or calls. He could just be trying to be friendly but I suppose if I were in his shoes I would not have sent it seeing as he did not do it the previous year.
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