A
female
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:Hello,I need a little help. I met my boyfriend a little over a year ago and within a month we were officially together. He was 25 and I was 21. He finished engineering school a few months later and we moved to his new job. It is close enough to my university, we have a joint bank account and I don't have to work. He has openly expressed to me that whenever he thinks I will say yes he wants to get married. I told him to ask again when I finish school, start working and we get a significant amount of money saved. Getting married is a scary thought! It feels like we share everything, an apartment, money, everything. I can't remember the last time I went to a party. He is not controlling and tells me go whenever I want but for some reason I don't. I feel like I'm such a grown up and I don't want to be yet. Every one is jealous of my smart, successful and drop dead gorgeous boyfriend and that I'm basically a stay at home girlfriend and he treats me like a princess but I miss my old single life and going out all the time. I miss having fun. I miss feeling free. I only have one more semester of school left, then I won't even be in college anymore... I need help sorting all of this out.
View related questions:
jealous, money, university Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
reader, anonymous, writes (10 January 2014): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionUpdate, thank you all for your answers. I realize this is very late but I wanted to let you know that we are still together and going strong. We will most likely be getting engaged in the next few months as he asked me to run by a local jeweler and let them size my hand, and I can honestly say that I am ready now. I think I was just afraid of commitment and, of course, he has waited patiently for me. Now I think I might be the one who cannot wait to get engaged. He is perfect to me and has only gotten sweeter with time. I am so lucky, thank you all for helping through a tough time :)
A
male
reader, anonymous, writes (19 October 2012): I agree, being single is SO much fun. You get to do whatever you want and enjoy life the way you want it. But in every life changing decision we make, there is always a trade off. It depends on how much you are willing to sacrifice in order to have the kind of life you want. The difference between single life and married life is that as a single person, you live more for yourself. As a married person, you live more for your family. But the biggest difference is that a single person doesn't have a home but a married person does. At the end of the day as a single person, you go back to no one. When you're married you have people to go back to, your spouse and children, people who truly love you and are a part of you. It really depends on what you want.
...............................
A
male
reader, anonymous, writes (19 October 2012): sometimes secure things seem boring. But you have to make your choice here :
1. start partying, hurt him and eventually get into heart aches.
2. find a reason to stay away from him for some time, experiment things secretly and never share anything to anyone and then make your choice.
3. Dump him, experiment and find newer pastures.
Living in a limbo always hurts. But i am sure that if you miss him, your heart will ache. I think it would be better off to stay with your sweet little dreams as fantasies and stay with this guy who seems to be good. :)
Good luck
...............................
|
