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writes:Okay, so the girl I like has heard that I like her from someone else, though I have pretty much confirmed it since, and everyone is telling me to ask her out, however, though I do like her, I do not want a girlfriend - yet. She doesn't talk to me, for example, if she wants to ask me a question she relays it through her friends, but sometimes I have caught her looking at me and once or twice I have held the gaze.I have grown up so far pretty much in the nerd group and have had minimal contact with the other sex, not none, and yes, I have talked to her, but before she found out. However I really suck at talking to girls I like. Sorry for rambling, but with everything in mind, what do I do???? :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 October 2012): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThaks guys, great advice:)and thanks Abella for the articles - they're very helpful.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (18 October 2012):
 Do nothing. You said yourself that you don't want a gf yet, so why do you want to get to know her for ? To give her the runaround ?...
" To be friends " you might say. Ah yes, that would be nice in theory, in practice it won't work. She likes you already as more than a friend, and if a shy girl had her friend go put feelers out for her , it's not friendship she is interested to, but more.
Not much different for you, it 's an exercise in futility and frustration to stay "friends " to someone you are romantically attracted to.
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reader, kenny  + ♥, writes (18 October 2012):
 I think its very mature of you to say your not ready for a girlfriend yet. There is absolutely nothing wrong with just being friends with her as long as you don't lead her on and make her think there is a chance of a relationship. Keep her as a friend, do stuff together, with her, and in a group too. Keep it on a friendly basis, untill such time you may feel you are ready to embark on a relationship, some of the best relationships stem from good freinds first.
Good luck
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reader, Abella  +, writes (18 October 2012):
 What a refeshing attitude that you are not ready yet to have a girlfriend. I applaud such a mature attitude as right now concentrating on your studies is a good move.
You refer to yourself as part of the 'nerd' group so that is often code for the fact that you may also be intelligent. Delaying becoming attached to any one girl in a boyfriend/girlfriend relationship is a really wise move and demonstrates your emotiuonal maturity.
You can still be pleasant to the girl. But not give her any signals that you want to make her your girlfriend.
But you can still consider and prepare for the future for when you are ready to move towards choosing girlfriend.
With that in mind I am attaching your tutorial to prepare you for the future. These are a series of excellent articles from some Great Aunts and some Great Uncles on this DearCupid.org site
Here is your reading for the week. Enjoy!!
You will be the smoothest guy in your group when you finally do decide to date as you will be well versed in the moves that work.
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/what-is-confidence-and-how-do-i-get.html
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/how-to-be-attractive-a-beginners-guide-for.html
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/lets-talk-about-the-problem-with-nice-guys.html
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/20-questions-to-ask-someone-on-a-date.html
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/nice-guys-.html
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reader, k_c100 +, writes (18 October 2012):
 Well if you dont want a girlfriend there isnt much you can do - if you start talking to her you will lead her on, giving her hope that she will be your girlfriend soon when in fact that is not true.
Carry on as normal, dont talk to her and leave it as a simple crush.
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