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writes:First off I want to say please don't judge me I know I made a huge mistake and I am trying to fix myself and what I have done.Around 2 months ago I made a fake account on a dating website. I got pictures from someone else and made up the "about me" section. I made a fake profile because I wanted to see what online dating was like without using my own pictures because I thought it was weird and I didnt want anyone to know I was using online dating. Basically I talked to different women just small talk here and there. Then I started to talk with this one girl. I thought it would be the same deal just small talk but I wanted to talk with this one girl more and more. We started talking a lot and getting to know each other. I didnt think anything would come out of it but I was wrong. Before I could get out of it I was already in a big hole and coouldnt get out of all my lies. I wanted to tell her that the person in the profile wasnt real but I didnt know how to without her wanting to stop talking with me. I lied about a lot of things like my look, my age, my job, and other small things. We would agree to meet so many times but I made excuses that I couldn't meet and obviously that hurt her. At one point I stopped talking to her by just ignoring her and not responding. This lasted about 3 weeks. It killed me inside because I felt so guilty and I really missed talking with her. I finally broke and replied back to her after 3 weeks of not talking. We started talking like we used to but obviously she was hurt from what i did and she still didnt know that I was fake. Until 3 days ago I finally broke her the news of the lying I did and how I pretended to be someone else.I have never felt so bad and guilty in my life! I sent her a long email explaining how sorry I was and how even though I lied about my age, job, etc I never lied about the way I felt about her and how I cared and liked her. I dont know what to do I feel like just forgetting each other would be a waste because we still had that connection. Should I meet her and explain face to face? Should we still try to work things out and just talk and start off on a fresh new page? Should I just leave her alone and never contact her again? I really do like her shes such an amazing girl. Please give me advice. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 October 2012): so she replied to me saying this, "Thank you for your apology but im not interested in anything. I could never look past the lies"
this sucks i just wish this never happened.
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reader, Ciar +, writes (19 October 2012):
 You've already come clean and apologised so all you can do now is wait. Give her time to absorb it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 October 2012): Just wait and see what she has to say. I'm guessing it might take her a little longer than usual to reply to you, because she'll need time to think. If I were her, I would forgive you. I understand why you would be scared to post your real pictures online. You just never know what people will do with them. I can also understand you being embarrassed if your friends found out you're using a dating site. I used one myself about 5 years ago, and it was awkward "running into" a few people I knew from high school on there. I also had a few guys tell me they couldn't help but save my pictures. It made me scared to ever post anymore, and I took down the full-body one I had up. Anyway, back to what I was saying I would do in her situation. I would ask to meet you in person because I'd be curious to see the REAL you, especially if I had spent weeks or months talking to you. I would want to see if I would like the real you as much or more than the "fake" you. If I did, then we would go on as if it never happened.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 October 2012): Ok i sent her an email explaining how sorry i am and everything else this afternoon, should i leave her to reply for herself or should i text her telling her to check her email? i really want to hear what she has to say.
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (19 October 2012):
 I DO think you should send her an apology and explanation and let HER decide if she wants to have anything to do with you or not.
If she does, good for you, if she doesn't well then hopefully you have learned your lesson.
Those are REAL people out there, if you want to pretend stuff I suggest you find a online ROLE PLAYING group and get into that.
Good luck.
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