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writes:Hello! So my main issue here is that I have always had a hard time reading people and their intentions. I'm also a very gullible person, unfortunately. Which makes trying to read peoples feelings that much more difficult. Now with that being said I'm hoping I can get some advice or even answers as to what it is I should do.I've never had a problem getting guys' attention but I just never knew what to do with it.So almost 9 months ago in March I met this guy, we'll call him X , at a small get together with a few friends and at first he didn't even have an affect on me but as I got to know him through out the night he started to grow on me and i began to notice how cute and funny and smart he was and became completely infatuated with him but I did nothing at first to show this. Towards the end however after quite a few drinks we were flirting like crazy. Nothing happened though and i ended up leaving and never thought I would see him again. Two weeks later my friends bf invited her to another get together and we all decided we would go. MUCH to my surprise it was X 's get together! We said hi as soon as we saw each other and this time hit it off immediately. We talked all night, flirted and had a goodnight kiss and he got my number down this time.He text me a few days later and that's where it all started.Either we were both too shy to make the next move of asking the other out on a date or we had to much pride and we eventually stopped talking. Then in May we met again at another get together! We said hi but didn't really talk throughout the night but after I had left, with out saying bye to him, he text me and that's where things really picked up. We started texting like crazy and hanging out and talking all the time and i suspect it was because neither one of us wanted to let each other get away again. I started to genuinely like him. Things have definitely progressed but now I don't know where we stand. Even though he's never flat out told me he likes me he extremely acts like he does. All he has said out loud is that he enjoys my company. He makes the effort to hang out with me whether its for a few hours or two or three days in a row and ppl have told us we act just like a couple but he makes no move to make things official. I know he's a very private person so I don't want to push him to talk about how he feels but he has told me that he was cheated on in his last two relationships so i don't know if his caution stems from that or if I'm just impatient? Does he like me and he's taking his time or is he just playing games and tagging me along for exactly that, "company"? I have no idea what to make of things. I've made my feelings of liking him and wanting to be his gf clear and he just gives me broad answers with no real answers? Now I don't know what to make of my feeling towards him which seem to get smaller as more and more time passes by. How should I handle this?I apologize for the length of this but I wanted to give all the details I could.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 October 2012): Hi there! i hate guys who confuse girl's. But in all honesty dear, men are so easy to read, you should never be confused about his actions. To me its pretty clear. Oh yeah he likes you but his not serious about committing himself to you and go beyond just friends status. Or Mutual Understanding you might have.Have you watch when Sally met Harry? They were great friends until sally felt wanting more friendship with harry, then harry wasn't sure about it, so what sally did is avoid harry.It worked, Harry realized he can't live another day without sally. I think you should apply No CONTACT RULE with him.If you really want more then you have to do, what you have to do, you've done your part by telling him you want to be his gf..So what is his problem? Also just like sally, start looking for someone new. Go out on a date and let him know about it not by telling him but by bringing someone with you when you have a get together party again next time.When he asked why? tel him You thought your not official, so why bother telling him.. Got it? GReat... Good luck...
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reader, Reke +, writes (18 October 2012):
It's hard to say. It could be many different things. Maybe he's keeping his options open, maybe he's in another semi-relationship, or maybe he's just too shy to take it to the next level.What do you mean when you say that you've made your feelings clear? Have you actually told him? If he's anything like me, he's not going to be able to interpret a hair twirl and a blink. You need to be very blunt.If you're concerned, ask him. I'm sure he has an explanation. I'd be more worried if he won't explain. Then it'll look like something fishy is up. But if that's the case, tell him that, too. Tell him that things are just too strange if it comes to that. I don't think it will.It's hard to tell with the information given, but I'll assume he's just a shy guy who doesn't want to take the next step until he's 1000% sure he's not going to get shot down.
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