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writes:So there is this guy. He's a year older than me (18), dark hair, brown eyes and he's around 5"11. We've been talking for a few months, he's sweet but not too cringe, he knows how to cheer me up and is always making me laugh through texts. Since we've been talking I've really started to like him more and more, however I can't read guys at all and I'm not sure whether he likes me in that way or not. How do I drop it into conversation or ask him? Or don't I? I don't know how to go about it. Advice please :)
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reader, Dorothy Dix  +, writes (19 October 2012):
Hi there. It's probably not a wise thing to come right out and ask a guy - "do you like me?" or "how do you feel about me?"
It could scare him right off.
At the very least, you know he likes you as a friend, because he is nice to you and makes you laugh by sending funny text messages to you.
So he's kind of fun, isn't he?
He could be thinking about whether to ask you out, and might be just making sure of his own feelings before he goes ahead and takes that step.
Most men would keep their feelings to themselves in the beginning, just to make sure the girl they like, feels the same way they do.
No-one wants to be rejected.
So for now, he might be in that stage where he is making up his mind about you.
You can't rush that process.
And it could take a few more weeks or months.
If you try and push him into a decision about you by texting him or hanging around him all the time, you might just push him away altogether.
And to try and move things along faster than they are meant to happen, can make a woman appear very aggressive and controlling, which don't come across in a favourable light with a man.
So that's something to always be mindful of, when it comes to romantic interests - no matter what age you are.
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