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writes:I've really lost my temper with my ex today and I can't calm down. We split up because my friend found him on a dating site, when I asked him about it he went mad called me a fat ugly c**t and made out set him up. I'd had months of him calling me a slag for no reason. He snooped through my facebook and some man had sent something a bit dirty, but this was before I'd even met him. He threatened my kids dad infront of them because he was jealous. He locked me in the bathroom once, broke my phone and said that he'd make sure I wouldn't have my children. He threatened to post naked pictures of me online. He's just horrible. Well I moved on quickly and I've found the nicest boyfriend ever, he's so amazing. My ex phoned me on my birthday saying everyone in the local pubs where I live told him that I was a slag. I'm sick to death of being called ths by him when its not even true. I've slept with under 10 people and I'm 28, I've had long term relationships, I've never cheated. M ex was in the army, he soesnt know how many people he's slept with, he's been to orgies, he told me he's had sex with girls in public in nightclubs and he's going round calling me all this disrespectful stuff. I'm so angry and I've text loads asking who said it and he's just replying saying 'slut' :( I can't stop texting and I'm annoying myself what should I do.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 December 2012): Fishdish spot on! I love tha advice :) I'm takin it!
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reader, fishdish  +, writes (10 December 2012):
 Dude..no one in that bar is saying you're a slut. He is. Because he has a crazy amount of insecurities--PROBABLY from his own trashy days--and is projecting them on to you. IF he doesn't think he is a man whore, he certainly has associated with a good deal of..ahem...easy women. You do not fit in this box and he knows it, but probably your stability makes him threatened by you, and so he has chosen to be jealous of non-threatening men in your life to chase you off his scent of living a trashy lifestyle himself. He seeks to control you and to make you feel like sh*t to help you get rid of your independence, because he needs someone who acts like he needs him, and if they don't, then they're sh*t because he feels like sh*t. I agree with everyone. Block this psycho, he is toxic.
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (10 December 2012):
 Duct tape your fingers together and get a grip. You are playing right into his hands. You know he's an asshole so just ignore him and leave him totally alone so he can prove to the rest of world he's an asshole. People will eventually consider the source.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (10 December 2012):
 Well, I would look into finding an app for your phone so you can BLOCK your ex. IF that doesn't work, maybe it's time to get a new number.
And yes, YOU can stop yourself from letting him get a rise out of you. No one else can "stop" for you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 December 2012): Just do away with this jerk already! He isn't worth your time, effort or anything else for that matter. He's a liar, a cheater and at this point there is nothing you can do to change that. Right now focus on getting over the emotionally, mental and physical pain he may have caused, go get checked out by a doctor to make sure you have a clean bill of health, change your number, block his emails, move if you have to, block him for any Facebook or networking site pages you might have and let the healing begin. If you have to throw away your phone to keep yourself from contacting him then do so, but this man is NOT the one for you and you are NOT the one for him either. The quicker you accept that, the better off you will be in the long run. Plus you don't want this jerk around your children.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 December 2012): Get his number blocked, then delete him from your phone, facebook, and everything else. You know he is a piece of shit so why indulge him? Fuck that guy. He is obviously obsessed with you. Why do you want to keep in touch with such an abusive piece of shit? So you can hear him talk shit about you?
Here's an idea: read everything you wrote here and pretend you're not you. Pretend you are just like everyone else on the outside is looking in. I think this will give you perspective.
Abuse has a million forms and people who are USED to abuse do not understand how screwed up it is. Let's say you visit a country where it's custom to kick your pet in the face every time you come home. It's normal for those people because they don't know anything else. But to you, it's horrible.
Please leave this guy alone!
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reader, Snooks92  +, writes (10 December 2012):
I would block his number and move on. He is doing it to get a reaction out of you and is clearly enjoying upsetting you. Ignore, block and move on is the only answer. Hope it goes well.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 December 2012):
STOP texting at once..
2ndly if he texts you send him a stock reply of.. I have been informed that if you continuing to send this harassing degrading untruthfully libel texts to my phone that I shall go to the police and have you charged and arrested.. Do not text me again ever..
3rdly if he continues save the messages he sends do not reply, go to the police and change your number..
Take care sweetie move on. Life is to short.
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