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writes:Please advise.Like a retard I quit halfway through college several years ago and havent been back. Now I'm dating a man in his early 40s and I am in my mid 20s. He is amazing and we will get married but I must finish school. At same time I feel we will have to hurry and have kids because I don't want him to be a father too old. Timing wise is it realistic to go to school, (3 yrs left if u include masters) be pregnant and at least work part time and still have time for each other plus social life? And after baby is born? Is it too much and has anyone done this or am I nuts?
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 December 2012): Without a good college degree you wont be able to give your child a good life. Why don't people understand that "life" is not just a biological thing! Life is, more importantly, also about happiness. Why do people rush to have babies? Please make sure you are financially, maritally, and emotionally stable BEFORE you have a kid. Make sure you are independent first! Don't count on your partner financially because there is ALWAYS a chance that you'll get disappointed. Without a solid education, you're not financially independent especially in this economy! So get your degree first because that is, almost always, a guarantee for a job! A few years from now, you wont have the energy or motivation to continue with your education. Do it now that you're young! Don't be silly! The father's age doesn't matter. Yours does and as far as I'm concerned you've got a lot of time!
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (11 December 2012):
 Why is this about HIS timing and not about yours? Are you really ready to be a parent if you are still using language such as "like a retard" or "if u include masters"?
Decide when YOU are ready to have a child and if the man in your life is a real man, he'll be ready too.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 December 2012): Your ovaries have got at least another 10 years on them so I think you've go time to mull over being a mom and even wait for him to propose to you...you might even finish school before then.
Sorry to be blunt, but I think you've got a lot of aspirations and no focus. You've not finished undgergad, but you've already already figured out how long it would take to do a masters? I think you're spinning wheels in your head in place of taking any concrete action.
If your priority is to finish school, then finish it. If your priority is to be the mother of this man's kids, then go get knocked up. Personally, I think finishing school would be the better choice.
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reader, learnNlive +, writes (11 December 2012):
Technically it is doable but in reality he might not be happy with the amount of time you two would be spending.
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