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writes:I'm concerned about my boyfriend's crazy ex emailing him on facebook.I've been with boyfriend 2.5 years. Before we got together he used to date this ex pretty casually for a few months at a time, break up and get together when drunk. He then ended it for good. When it ended he said she used to cry when she saw him and went a bits nuts. He said she was a bit of a psycho and thats why it ended. Ive always felt a bit insecure about her because of them always going back to eachother way before meeting me.She has contacted him during our relationship on and off and throws tantrums if he doesnt reply. This has caused arguments between us as i think she still has feelings for him. My boyfriend and i had a break for a month in january due to other issues. during this time she made her presence known on his facebook page liking and commenting on photos etc.After our break i told bf she still makes me uneasy. He said he had no interest in her etc. A few days ago i found out they have been messaging eachother privately on facebook, he doesnt know i know. It was pretty innocent chat but she did say she will pop into jis restautant with her friends which he said would be good. He has since deleted the messages. I feel hurt he has hid this from me as he said he had no interest in talking to her but would tell me if she made contact. what should i do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 September 2011): You need to tell him what you know. He shouldn't be concealing this from you. My guess is if he is still communicating with her he may still be interested in her romantically, but it could also be he wants to have an amicable friendship/relationship when they do see each other. Remember, you really only know what he has told you about their relationship, you don't know her side of the story. If she really is crazy, then why would he want to keep any relationship? There are contradictions here in what he is saying and doing.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 September 2011): Talk to your boyfriend and ask him. If he tries to fool you, he's not worth it.
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reader, Sageoldguy1465  +, writes (10 September 2011):
 In your submittal... I see enough evidence for you to sit him down and say, "Enough, already. Make up your mind... and if you choose to stay with me then discontinue communications with her." IF he can't/won't do that, then steel yourself to cut ties with him.....
Good luck....
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