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writes:ok so i have been dating my bf for about a year and 3 months already and he recently found pictures of an ex boyfriend of mine who had broken my heart 4 months before i met my current bf and someone is telling my bf that my x and me didnt finish dating til recently.But me and that other guy ended it in dec 2009. I met my current bf in april 2010 i swore up and down to god and put it on my life that i was being honest with him and he still doesnt belive me. i havent done anything wrong for him to be acting like this so my question is how do i make him believe me? how do i prove to him that i did nothing wrong?? he keeps sayin he was the other guy but that wasnt true Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 September 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionok well I know for sure it isn't my ex stirring up problems and I'm near my ex right now in town were he lives cuz my parents live.there and he's not txting me and I kust found out I'm pregnant by my bf
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reader, Aunty BimBim  +, writes (11 September 2011):
 Ask him if he is prepared to front the person who is telling him the lies in person with you?
If he wont do that dump him, as it means he either suspects the truth or he doesnt care for the truth, a relationship without trust is not a good relationship.
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reader, Abella +, writes (11 September 2011):
 it is a sad and sorry day when a boy friend decides to believe the lies, mischief and gossip of others. And prefers to ignore the honest sincere truth of his girl friend. Are you sure it is not your ex trying to stir up trouble to break up your existing relationship?
Ask him, explain. Point out that no one could truthfully say they saw you with him after the breakup date, because there were no such occasions.
One or more of your 'friends' is up to no good.
Or it could be that your Bf wants to break up and is cobbling together the weakest possible case to justify his intended future actions. Has your Bf been evasive and distant all of a sudden or looking for excuses to be critical of you?
It can be a weak man's way of breaking up.
Sit your Bf down and set out the facts and look him in the eye and assertively ask him these questions. Tell him the rules before you start, no interrupting, no yelling, no sno swearing, no judgmental nasty sneering comments, no he said/she said hearsay of other parties, no aggression.
But just you and he together, alone, face to face, honestly and sincerely with empathy working out the truth with great respect for each other shown on both sides.
If then he still will not believe you then ask him what it is he really wants from you? Because you have told him the truth. And his first loyalty should be to you, not to mischievous muck raking ex's or so called 'friends'
Ask him how he would feel if he knew he was telling the truth, yet you would not believe him?
Please take good care of you
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