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*isspurple
writes:A few weeks ago i met a guy and we've been getting on well and he's been taking me out over the past few weeks and it's been nice and it's obvious he likes me but he hasn't asked me to be his girlfriend (I know it's only been a few weeks so i guess it's normal to not ask someone out yet) things have got a bit heated but we haven't had sex or anything. I recently went to a house party and met a guy there and everyone got drunk and we had a flirt on then were left alone and one thing led to another and yeah.. Now i like both guys and don't know what to do. They both seem like decent people. The first guy has got a full time job and has a car etc and taking me to a concert in december. The second guy lost his job and cannot drive and they both live a short distance away. I know driving and stuff doesn't have to be a reason to stay with someone but it is nice to have. I am quite stuck and don't know what to do can you help please. Oh and i forgot to mention they know each other but i didn't realise till after i met the second guy :S awkward i know... help please??
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reader, cheers  +, writes (12 September 2011):
 Then don't do it, my dear. Watch out and think carefully before you do.It's your future.Don't ruin it! You might end up hurting yourself. It isn't wise to date both guys, especially they knew each other. You could landed in difficult position later on, more problems will come and hurt yourself too. By then it's already too late. Take 1st guy. He seems a good person. Express that you're interested to him
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reader, misspurple +, writes (12 September 2011):
misspurple is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI don't want to hurt the first guys feelings coz we have had quite a few really great days out together but i don't know how he feels about me or if he was just taking me out to get to know me better then decide but we have kissed but no further.. I have only met the second guy once and he's really funny. I would love to get to know both of them better but i don't want either of them to feel freaked out that i'm seeing two guys coz both of them might just walk away. I don't know how close they are as mates but neither of them have mentioned eachother but have mentioned other mates. I definately don't want the first guy to know i drunkenly slept with the second guy, i feel really guilty even though neither of us has committed or said anything to make me feel like we're in a relationship. My head is so messed up!
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reader, cheers +, writes (11 September 2011):
check for characters, behaviours & respect. Does he follows your decision or forces his idea to you? what's his interests? Is he a planner? does he talk about future relationship with you? Is he saver or spender? Does he respect and cares about you? Think of these points before you make a wise decision
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reader, Moo's Mum  +, writes (11 September 2011):
 In America they date a lot rather than go for exclusiveness. Date these two men for a while and see which one comes to the fore.
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