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writes:So, I really want to understand how a man chooses what porn to watch... my bf watches videos featuring MILFs and latina women, but I am a young (same age as him), Swedish (same nationality as him) girl! Does it mean he prefers older and Latina looking women? His exes have all been the same age as him, Swedish, fair skinned and fair haired, so I thought that was the look he was attracted to...I don't mind it, but I don't get it!! I'd love someone to explain men's choice of porn to me, thanks :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 September 2011): Many believe that guys seek variety and so won't necessarily fantasize about a "type" that they already have. It's human nature to want what you don't or can't have. Weird but true.Also, what men (and women) look at isn't always what they would want in real life. To put this another way, many have calendars and posters of Ferrari sports cars on their walls. The vast majority know they'll most likely never own a Ferrari... and some would not choose to own one even if they could. They realize it would be completely impractical, you couldn't leave it anywhere, it gets terrible mileage, can't be driven in winter, attracts too much attention, etc. But it still is fun to look at that car and daydream about driving it without any of the responsibilities that go with it.If your bf only ever watches Latina MILFs, it's clear he has a thing for that look. But that is a fantasy, and porn is fantasyland. In real life, long-term attraction is more about personality, common values, shared interests, genuine love and spirituality. Since porn can't offer any of that, it relies solely on looks and performance.
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (11 September 2011):
 my bf prefers young Asian women in his porn... I am 13 years older than him and not Asian. He also prefers light eyes and i have dark brown eyes...
just because they have a fantasy type does not mean they don't desire the woman that's actually in their lives...
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reader, unknown2u +, writes (11 September 2011):
He watches whatever scratches his itch. I don't know that it tells you anything more than that. There is a wide variety of things that turn most guys on, and you're not going to get all of those things in one woman. That your guy watches MILFs and Latinas doesn't mean he prefers them to you, it just means that he likes them too.
I think anyone trying to analyze me on the basis of what I watch would give up in despair. Or they'd conclude that I'm omnivorous, which is probably closer to the mark.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 September 2011): Not necessarily, it's just a fantasy he may have. Idon't think you should be concerned about that. Don't you have a fantasy you don't dare to reveal because seems inapropiate?
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reader, neomum  +, writes (11 September 2011):
Its called fantasy everyone has them but have you asked him what he likes about them. You might be surprised as long as he is not ignoring you and putting porn above everything else I don't see a problem. I have watched porn myself with my husband and we always end up laughing as porn is so fake and unrealistic.
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