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writes:We've all been here i know but Im struggling to keep it together. Here it goes.Me and my daughters dad was together 5yrs with a few breaks between. We broke up around a month ago but he still lived in our house until yesterday and i miss him so much.He wasn't nice to me at all. I've been kicked punched ect. But the worst thing was when he took my daughters saving tin and went and spent it on drugs. I was heart broken. I try my best for my family but nothing was enough. For our whole relationship I've covered up for me. Saying he doesn't do drugs ect to his family.Recently he came home absolutely livid for no reason and punched me infront of our daughter. She's 3 so was clearly distressed. I no this sounds Soooooooooo crazy but Im heart broken. I feel sick to my stomach. I can't eat. Sleep or anything. I use to dream about the days id be free but now its here Im not so sure.Im only 23. i shouldn't feel like this. I just really need to get him out of my head. I have a brilliant family and lots of friends but i can't tell them Im upset they'll think Im a mug. Ill never take him back even if he asked but i just really need to get him out of my head. The one thing that's annoyed me the most us he's getting all the sympathy from his side of the family. I've never told them about him hitting me. Drinking. Stealing or drugs an now he's turning them against me. It would break my heart if he found someone else.I guess Im just looking for answers. Why do i love someone so nasty?? Sorry about this being so long.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 September 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionYes i no its crazy.. I just seem to b remembering the good times and forgetting the bad.. Crazy but ill get there.
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reader, Moo's Mum  +, writes (11 September 2011):
 You are simply scared. Your whole way of life is now going to change and that is very scary for you. In time you will look back on this period of your life and wonder what you were thinking but at the moment all you can see is uncertainty.
First of all you absoutely can not never ever go back to him. Anyone who hits you and then does it in front of his daughter is not the right man for you.
Second don't worry that his family can't see the real him yet. It's only a matter of time and by that stage you will be home clear and happy (trust me)
Third keep yourself really busy so you don't have time to mourn a man who never deserved you. Join some clubs like a book club or a cooking class or something else that interests you. (There are a lot of free things to join if money is a worry for you)
Four make this your mantra, I am beautiful, strong, loving and worthy and I DESERVE to be happy.
Five channel all your energies into your beautiful litle girl. She needs you so much and she needs to learn from you how to be a strong and independant woman.
Throw your shoulders back and doll and realise that your life is just beginning. Happy times are ahead. Don't allow yourself to think about this man again. Everytime you think about him replace that thought with something else. It will not take long for this to be automatic and you will realise that you never think about him anymore.
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