A
female
age
30-35,
*atiebline
writes:Basically I was seeing a guy I started to like to be honest he's the first guy iv liked for ages. We got on really well I met his family an he told me I'm the first girl he's brought to his familys house since his ex. He was really nice to me did things for me evan when my car broke down he fixed it. He said to me your guna be my girlfriend one day. Anyway after abit he became distant with me all of a sudden, I didn't chase him I just left him he knows I like him so I thought if he does, he will come back.He got back in touch with me an asked to meet me and he was like don't you wanna see me again? I left it ages to reply and said yes I do. He then asked when? so we met the next day. We ended up talking for ages he told me I like you but iv got a lot going on an he has trouble from his past and doesn't want anything to happen to me or my car (I believe him about this because iv spoke to a friend about it ánd his family have been through things and he seemed really genuine and upset while speaking to me) so I said okay but I do like you enough. He still kept in touch and we agreed to go out on valentines day which never happened because he never got in touch.. so this time I thought that's it now I won't let him mess me about I know he's gone through a lot but I don't need this, I was mad cos I actually let my guard down with him. Anyway I didn't hear from him for two week, then one day he sent me a msg saying I'm sorry. I said what for. He said I'm sorry for standing you up I didn't want to hurt you eventually I new I would have done so I'm sorry. I said okay to be honest I'm glad you have said sorry its nice and were still friends. He replied yeah we're friends I'm not saying I don't like you I'm saying you deserve better and you don't need all the crap that comes with me honest!. I didn't reply cos I was at work and got another message I'm right though arnt I? So I said yeah I do deserve better. he said are we friends then yes? I said yeah what ever. He replied what ever? that's nice. so I just laughed cos what else am I supposed to say?. To be honest I am upset I don't no what to make of this I know he feels guilty but he always gets back in touch. Does he actually like me and want me to stick around Or should I just take that as its over. He didn't need to get back in touch he could of just left it I do think he's botherd. I just don't no how to react he must think something about me to care about how I feel. My friend said start being a bitch and he will want ya or egnore him and use the no contact rule but I don't want to. With him saying I'm right arnt I? I wounder if he was leaving it up to me to see if I would give it another go? And now he's got impression I'm not interested. I know he's got issues but when you like someone I'm willing to give it a go.
View related questions:
at work, his ex Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
female
reader, llifton  +, writes (28 February 2013):
 i think this guy is messing with your head. i know that's not the answer you're looking for and want to hear. but i think he just wants you to want him.
if he liked you, you would know. he would make you a top priority. and not only that, but he wouldn't tell you that you deserve better. i mean seriously, what is that crap? nobody really says that and means it. it's a cop out. if he liked you, he'd treat you perfectly. not crappy.
but he IS right, that you DO deserve better. stop coming up with excuses for his shit behavior and realize that you don't need him. i'm sure you're a great catch, and any guy would be lucky to have you. so rather than focusing on a guy who spends his time half-ass messing with your head, cut ties with this douche and eventually you'll meet an awesome guy who treats you exactly how you know you deserve to be treated. none of this hot and cold junk. :D
put your foot down and demand the treatment you know you deserve. good luck!
A
female
reader, k_c100 +, writes (27 February 2013):
 I think he was testing you, to see if you would have come back with something like this:
"No dont be silly, I like you a lot and I dont care what is going on with you at the moment, I'll stick around no matter what"
So when he got the response (good for you by the way!): "Yeah I do deserve better" he will have been taken aback, he was expecting the needy girl routine where she will cling on to any guy that shows her a bit of interest.
I dont know what this guys game is, and its not clear what he is hoping to achieve, but most likely he doesnt want to committ to a relationship but likes the idea that you will be hanging around in case he wants some female company.
Regardless of whether he likes you or not, all this guy is capable of is messing you around and hurting you. Definitely not worth wasting your time on, so stick by your guns, forget about him and move on. He clearly just wants a girl in his life just in case he decides he wants a bit of female company, and was probably hoping you would be that girl. Dont allow him to use you like this, he is trouble and that is 100% obvious.
Move on and forget about him, there are better guys out there.
...............................
|
