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writes:dear cupids,as silly as the issue may seem yet i need a prompt answer becuase any action that needs to be taken have to happen today.5min ago my x boyfriend who is with me in the university said hi and his hi continued into a brief of his new financial status, i only stood their making no comments other than aha good, at the end of the 2min chat he said last semester i got 2 "a" and 2"c+", so i said try getting all "a" this semester he replyed you never asked me something and i didn't do it!he was my boyfriend for 2month only, and no he never did something just becuase i asked him to! thats why i left him in the first place!the issue is that i felt that what i did was something wrong regarding my current 9 month boyfriend, i know that if he was thw one in my situation, and his x made such comment to him it would hurt me, and i will think that she only did it because my boyfriend gave her the space to do so.my question is do i tell my boyfriend about it? Its nothing and it will probably just make him think bad probabilities! Do i tell?
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reader, Lady in Love +, writes (12 April 2013):
Lady in Love is verified as being by the original poster of the question cupids,
i told him about the chat! he didn't comment, he just smile the silly smile, i didn't ask any thing in fear actually lol!
thanks again
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reader, Lady in Love +, writes (27 February 2013):
Lady in Love is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks for all your answers, they really helprd me take the right call, i will tell him, but not like a separate story, it will just be right their when we're talking about our days.i am the kind that tells him everything and he does too, and thats why i think its an issue, yet fortunately to me he didn't have the time to meet me today, and as you said its not a big deal to say it right away on the phone or in a text or something.just yesterday he asked me:"how can a guy make sure that his girlfriend is acting right in her university far from him" so i answered :"if he is trusts that she loves him enough, he can trust she acts the same in front and far from him" and like the next day this x came, it just made me think of it as a bigger deal probablyanon e mouse their is nothing to tell about the chat,so i will just mention a head line, if he wants more i'll give details , i don't want to feel i'm keeping something a secretanonymous reader, we have never experienced such a situation where i would talk to an x, so i don't really know, yet he does get jealous but not in an angry wayllifton thanks! and yes i feel a need to tell, so that's why i'll do it when we are face to face sometime near.thank you all for the answers i'll tell you how his reaction will be! wish me luck
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reader, llifton  +, writes (27 February 2013):
 hi there.
well props to you for being incredibly honest, but i don't see anything wrong here at all. you two bumped into each other completely unplanned and shared a few words back and forth. unless i completely missed something, it wasn't anything shady at all.
anyway, if you really feel the need to tell your boyfriend something, just tell him you bumped into your ex and shared a really brief chat. that's about it. unless he's incredibly jealous, there's no reason for him to have a problem at all!
but keep up the good honesty! there needs to be more people like you in the world!
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 February 2013): Depends... are you the kind of girl who tells your boyfriend everything that happens in the day, good, bad, and ugly?If so, then sure.If not, then don't bother... unless of course the talk with your ex is bothering you. If it is then vent. There can't be any harm if nothing happened right?Unless your bf is weird about that stuff. You know him the best, so honestly, it's your judgement call.
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reader, anon_e_mouse  +, writes (27 February 2013):
 What is there to tell? You're not interested in your ex are you? You want to be with your boyfriend right? You didn't do anything with your ex other than talk to him very abruptly.
There's nothing to tell so why bother?
You've not done anything wrong here. The ex was talking to you and you didn't entertain him or get involved in the conversation. You just cut it short.
Don't worry about it.
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