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female
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:I met this guy (I will refer to him as B) almost two years ago when I went to my best friend's beach house. B and I lived in the same city but we both happened to be at the beach at the same time. We really hit it off and we flirted back and forth until we both got a bit drunk and ended up making out. We had a "relationship" (not the correct work but I can't think of another one that fits) for the whole remaining week we were at the beach. We made no plans to see each other when we were back in the city and I didn't even give him my phone number.When I was back, he texted me (I guess my friend gave him my phone number) and we told each other sweet things and agreed to meet when he got back from Europe (he went there for two weeks after the beach trip). We texted back and forth for a while when he was in Europe and he suddenly stopped and I didn't hear back from him and never saw each other again. I was a little sad but wasn't mad at him at all, after all, I was always conscious that it was probably just a fling.My best friend told me that everytime she sees him he asks how I am.More time went by and I moved out of the city we both lived in. A few months after (around October last year), he randomly contacts me. We started talking. We talked for hours that night, he brought the trip to the beach up and we started remembering stuff and what shocked me was that he remembered everything in detail (more than I did). He said he missed me and that he couldn't wait to see me when I was back in town. We spoke this way for like two days and then his replies started getting shorter and he took longer to reply. He would make excuses like he was busy, or he was studying or he was tired. I tried understanding but it somehow hurt me. He eventually stopped replying completely.Time went by and a few days earlier he randomly texted me again. We talked, again, he constantly replied but eventually his answers get shorter or she completely ignores them and he texts me back the next day with an excuse. What are your thoughts on this? A friend tells me he is just playing but I don't see the point of playing with someone who lives to far away and there is no possibility of sex anytime soon, etc. It just seems weird to me, why does he even contact me when we only met in person for a week, two years ago?I don't know. I always get excited when he writes. I don't even know why! I barely know him at all.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 February 2013): Hi! OP here. Thanks to everyone for their replies, I will keep that in mind. You are all right
And no, we didn't have sex, just kissing and sooome touching down there but that's as far as we went.
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reader, Sageoldguy1465  +, writes (23 February 2013):
 The key detail that is missing from your submittal, is whether or not you and he engaged in $-x at the beach. IF SO.... then he is sniffing around (and contacting you) to see if he can get a re-play of that (the $-x)....
Good luck...
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reader, IHateWomanBeaters +, writes (23 February 2013):
 tell them you're no longer interested in talking to him. He's not really interested in you. I know because I'm guilty of doing this once or twice
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reader, Daisy_Daisy  +, writes (23 February 2013):
 I agree with llifton, it's probably because he's bored and wants a bit of an ego stroke. It might be best to just put this fling firmly in the past. Yes you can keep your happy memories of it, but I wouldn't get too excited about anything happening with him now. All the best.
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reader, llifton +, writes (23 February 2013):
 i mean no disrespect, but truthfully, i think you're a good way for him to pass the time. if he's bored, he'll constantly text you. then if he finds something better to do, he'll forget all about it.
seems to me you shouldn't worry or think too much about this guy. i encourage you the next time he rekindles conversation, just be casual about it and don't expect anything to come of it. or if anything, be really nonchelaunt and distant with him, and see what he does. good luck.
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