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writes:I got a cute girl's number, we texted, ended up going out and had a great time. She even suggested "grabbing dinner next time." I asked her out again, and she agreed, but she said that she had to check her schedule and get back to me. A couple days went by until I texted her again just saying that I got into a minor accident. That sparked a conversation... a flirty and playful conversation too. She said she'd been sick recently, and hasn't done much. She apologized for not getting back to me, and said she'd check her schedule tomorrow. Haven't heard from her in a few days.Any thoughts on why she hasn't gotten back?
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (25 February 2013):
 sounds like she's not that into you or she's playing games.
either way I'd just say "NEXT" and move on.
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reader, llifton +, writes (25 February 2013):
 doubtful that she ever will get back. seems to me that she's not that interested. if she were, she wouldn't have to "check her schedule." most people don't just have a super strict schedule that they MUST abide by. and even if she did legitimately have a really busy schedule, if she were interested, she'd find the time. she would tell you how busy she was this week, but that next week, on whatever day, she wouldn't be. and could you meet up then?i know people are busy sometimes, but so busy that she has every hour penciled in for the upcoming week and can't squeeze any time for you in? where there's a will, there's a way. there's just clearly not much of a will on her behalf. and think about it this way. if the roles were reversed, and she were asking you out, how would you respond? since you like her, you'd probably jump on the idea of seeing her as soon as possible and would find the time, wouldn't you? would you have to "check your schedule" and get back to her? doubtful. here's a prime example for you. i'm in a relationship now with a girl who's full time in school and works full time. she's EXTREMELY busy. when we first met, we were just friends, and a co-worker of ours took an interest in her. took her out a couple of times and tried to date her. she wound up not being interested and realized this person wasn't for her, and every time after that, when this person asked her out, she said she had something to do; "her schedule was too full." that was her way of politely giving the hint she wasn't feeling it. well then her and i started spending some time together. when i would ask her to hang out, she definitely found the time. and if she was busy that night, she'd say she had too much school work, but how about tomorrow? she always found time for me. it's amazing how suddenly, when the motivation is right, the time just appears out of thin air. if i were you, i'd just stop texting her and find another girl. i'm sure you're an awesome guy. :) good luck.
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reader, TasteofIndia +, writes (25 February 2013):
 Yes, it could be millions of things. She might be playing games, stringing you along, or she's just genuinely busy, she's been sick, maybe she keeps misplacing her phone... it could be anything!! I'd do exactly as CMMP suggests and give her a few days. If you hear nothing and only if you really like this girl, ask her out for a specific night. If you don't made solid plans, then I would let it go and move on. Good luck!! :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 February 2013): Sorry it sucks but she's just not that into you and doesn't have the heart to tell you cuz you are probably a nice guy and feels bad.
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reader, CMMP +, writes (24 February 2013):
There could be a million things, it's not even worth speculating. The ball is in her court, give her another couple days and if she doesn't respond but you really like her, then ask her out for a specific time and tell her you don't care what her schedule says.
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