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male
age
36-40,
anonymous
writes:Hi all,I'm a 26 year old single male and there's a female married coworker (a newly wed) a couple of years older than me. We have become good friends and we call each other BFFs. We have lunch together alone pretty much everyday and always sit next to each other at work. We only talk about work, office gossip and also make plenty of jokes and laugh a lot. I see her as my older sister, and she has introduced me to her husband who works in the same building. I have met him a couple of more times at their family BBQ and her birthday. She regularly mentions me to her husband to say how funny I am (she tells me this).Last month, I told her that it was a brand new year, I got a brand new house. She then replied I need a girlfriend and offered to take me clothes shopping for me so I can dress and look better to help me get one. I'm not desperate for a girl, but I accepted because I was curious how I could dress better. She said she is so excited, we are going in a couple of weeks.My question is whether this sounds like a platonic friendship, or is too close to be a friendship? Do you feel she is well intended?
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reader, R1  +, writes (2 March 2013):
 Sounds 100% platonic to me
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (2 March 2013):
 you know her husband
you see her as a sister
she is open and honest about her marriage
there is no flirting going on
sounds perfectly fine (and platonic) to me.
she made sure you met her husband
she has you to family events
yeah I think I would like her too! That's how I have male friends...
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reader, cute angel +, writes (2 March 2013):
 What are you worried about? That if you spend more time with her you may start liking her..There might be a possibility that might happen,but you need to know she's married,she has a loving husband who has met you and trusts you enough to let his wife spend so much time with you..As of now I see nothing wrong in you being friends with her,but you know your limits,so I guess there should not be a problem..as your smart enough to know getting involved with a married woman is drama,baggage and a whole lot of bull shit that comes along,and also its morally and ethically wrong!So relax you're just being kind and friendly,don't flirt keep it friendly,may be you both could be good friends!who knows OP good luck
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reader, llifton +, writes (2 March 2013):
 well you say you view her like an older sister and she is taking you clothes shopping to find you a girlfriend, so it sounds to me like she views you like a younger brother.
it also sounds like her hubby is well informed about you (which doesn't sound too scandelous since she's not keeping you a secret). i would take an educated guess that this relationship is platonic. but just keep a close watch on it. if it transitions to touching and flirting then i would back off a bit.
just relax and enjoy your friendship with her. it sounds to me like you two make great friends.
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