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writes: hey everyone... well this is very short and i honestly want to know your honest opinions and what you guys think.. anyways I have this guy friend who I have been talking to for a while.. we met in the begining of the school year in August and have been friends.. we are also known as i would say having a "friends with benefits" type of relationship but more of an emotional feeling.. we are not quite together but we are good friends...But back in January, he got arrested and he had to another school sadly.. btw i am a senior in high school.. he had to go to this school to finish his credits and left the school for good.. but on Feb 26th was the last time i spoke to him.. I was telling him how it is quite weird that him and I havent been talking a lot lately and asked if he noticed... he said he definitely noticed.. and how the reason why we havent been talking a lot like before was because he needed some space to himself and he was not only blocking me, but his other friends.. but we were still talking before, but what i meant about not like before is the texting.. he would text me everyday but only a little like short conversation.. and i allowed myself to say ok he needs his space.. so i called four days later and never called or texted me back...I go on twitter about a week later and it finds out that he has been tweeting every day saying that what hes doing and hanging out with his friends and stuff.. i got very upset.. if you needed your space why are you talking to your friends on twitter? some of my friends were telling me how maybe he is talking to another girl.. honestly im not doubting it.. but i dont think so...i dont think he would not talk to me for three weeks exact. cuz another girl came along? even tho were not together, we still share that strong connection.. its like if hes been keeping in touch with me all this time since he left the school why all of a sudden that he wants to cut communication??anyways... i told myself that i would call one more last time.. and i called last monday and his phone was disconnected... its been disconnected for a week... so i dont know whats going on.. but i would go on twitter the last time i went on to see if hes updating was today and he hasnt put anything for a week since his phone been off.. I dont know.. i know that you guys will probably say to get over it as stuff and to forget it but its just weird for him to do this... especially how close we were.. did he really just decide to cut me off that day and plan to never talk to me again.. he told me that he wasnt ignoring me and said goodnight ill talk to you later .. and that was on the 26 of February.. and today its three weeks already.. what do you honestly think? do you think ill hear from him again?thank you :) p.s sorry if this was to long
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reader, llifton  +, writes (20 March 2013):
 i have definitely read this on here a handful of times written in different ways. listen sweetie, you're fixated on this. it's definitely time to move on. i gave the same advice multiple times. i'll say it one last time. MOVE ON. he has. he's not interested anymore.
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reader, Red591 +, writes (20 March 2013):
 If i could go back to the 18-21 year range I wouldn't even care about what guys thought cause my youth is ahead of me. I would tell this guy to pound sand. He doesn't display any signs of someone who actually cares that he is bothering you with is behavior. Ignore him and you will probably see him come back around. If he does come back around, act pleasant and act like you didn't notice he was gone and that will throw him a bit.
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reader, Got Issues  +, writes (19 March 2013):
 I think you've asked this question several times before because I recognise the details. Listen, I'm sorry to be blunt but I think it's what you need to hear right now, so here goes: You need to FORGET IT AND MOVE ON. You are not going to hear from him again. He is not interested. He hasn't spoken to you for almost a month. His phone is disconnected. He has probably changed his number and hasn't thought to give it to you. He hasn't forgotten to give it to you, he doesn't want you to have it. You think that you are good friends or friends with benefits or whatever but for him there is nothing at all between you, or he would have contacted you. Maybe he's got a girlfriend, maybe not. It doesn't matter what has happened, whatever you had is over and for your own sake you need to move on from this. You are prolonging your own suffering by asking why this has happened and trying to get in touch with him. Not everyone is a nice person. Sometimes people treat us badly and we never find out why. You can't control that and you can't control how he feels about you or acts towards you. What you can control is your own reaction to the situation. Be kind to yourself. First, delete all contact details you have for him. Block him on any social networking sites. Never contact him again. Do things for yourself, make plans for your future, things you really want to do, hang out with other, real friends, date other guys if you want to and someone nice comes along. Do not waste another second of your life thinking about this guy. It's over.
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reader, malvern +, writes (19 March 2013):
 Your boyfriends life seems to have moved on, and for reasons best known to himself he's moved on without you. It is understandably very hurtful and frustrating for you that you don't know the reason. The fact is that if he really wanted to contact you then he would do so. As they say, 'action speaks louder than words' and his actions are saying that he wants to live his life without you in it. It would be best if you stopped trying to contact him and find yourself some new friends who are worthy of your friendship.
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