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writes:I was in a 5 year relationship with my ex.We have been broken up for 2 years.I ran into her at a restaurant and we began talking about getting back together.We started back dating and having fun together.After about 2 weeks she told me during our 2 year break up she began dating this guy.She became pregnant,had a miscarriage and her and the guy have been broken up for over 4 months.I enjoy her companionship and she now wants to get married.I just can't seem to forget about her past.
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reader, Serpico +, writes (21 March 2013):
Unfortunately, the issues you have with her will likely get worse before they get better, if ever. This is just not something that goes away easily. Honestly, if I were you I would cut my losses right now. Good luck.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (20 March 2013):
 I'm not sure why she wants to get married so quickly.
Are you a sufferer of RJ? Because her being involved with someone while she was broken up from you seems perfectly normal to me.
many pregnancies end in miscarriage. before the advent of home pregnancy tests more women just thought it was a late and heavy period...
did her past before she was with you bother her?
if it did not why does this particular issue bug you?
I would not rush a marriage or being serious with her...she's had a tragic loss both of her baby and her partner... she may not be healed... as shown by her rush to marry....
my concern is that you are so bothered by the ex and the miscarriage and I'm not sure why.
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reader, llifton +, writes (20 March 2013):
 well i see no reason why you should rush the whole marriage thing. why can't you just continue to have fun and take things slow? i know you were together for five years in the past, but that was a while ago. this is a fresh start.
she didn't have to tell you about the miscarriage thing and the other guy. she opted to be honest. i don't think it's something you should leave her over. but that's just me. of course, everyone is different. however, keep in mind that she may be harboring a lot of emotional baggage that she's suppressing from the loss of the baby. that's a very traumatic thing. also, it's only been four months since her and her ex broke up. so while it's doubtful she's on the rebound, you never know.
if this were me, i'd just continue to keep seeing her and having fun and see how things go. definitely no talks of marriage or any of that stuff just yet.
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