I'm falling in love with my second cousin but our families are forbidding it!
Q. One day I was on FB and this girl had the same last name as me so I added her. We started talking and found out that we cousins but I didn't want to believe so I ignorant the fact that we was . So I starting talking about my brother and she said she...
A. 12 August 2013: hell, if you believe in the bible, you believe we are all related! all descendents of good ol' adam and eve. sisters even slept with their fathers, etc. it was a free-for-all back then. sleeping with your third cousin is nothing compared to what ... (read in full...)
Why was she hesitant to give me a kiss? Before that we talked.Any suggestions on how I could have handled it?
Q. I would just appreciate opinions on the following: I was sitting alone in a venue in the early hours, when a girl sat near me and started talking to me. Which is quite unusual for a female to do at 2am. The normal thing they do is stand around g...
A. 11 August 2013: Lol people can have friendly chats ya know..
She was waiting for her cab and was passing the time. End of story. ... (read in full...)
I'm falling in love with my second cousin but our families are forbidding it!
Q. One day I was on FB and this girl had the same last name as me so I added her. We started talking and found out that we cousins but I didn't want to believe so I ignorant the fact that we was . So I starting talking about my brother and she said she...
A. 11 August 2013: I think its illegal in a large handful of States. Not all. Hey, do what you want to do, sweetie. If it makes you happy, then no one has a right to judge. Just know it's never going to sit well worth your family. Good luck. ... (read in full...)
My wife doesn't want to tell me that I am not her best lover. Why does she lie?
Q. I met my wife when she was 40 (now she is 46). She told me that, among almost 30 previous sex partners, I am her best lover. I can not believe her. My penis is only 5 inches and normal thickness. I am not bad in bed, but I know I am not the best. ...
A. 10 August 2013: Its because you're fixated on it beyond what is a normal level. Most people would wonder and hope they were the best. Not fixate for years and continue to ask over and over obsessively. You're just being flat out rude to her at this point. Its ... (read in full...)
Am I overreacting or do I expect too much from my bf?
Q. For my bday my boyfriend (29 years old) got me Chanel No.5 perfume (kind of strange to me as I was turning 24 and I know this is a much more "mature" perfume). The problem isn't so much with my preference though, my problem is more with how he went ...
A. 10 August 2013: not gonna lie. you sound a bit like a brat. i get that you're trying to say he doesn't know you and isn't taking the time to figure you out or whatever. but some people are just bad gift givers. who cares?... (read in full...)
Male friend not getting the fact that I'm now in a relationship
Q. As of only a month, I've been in a relationship with a guy who I've been good friends with for 5 years. Just now we are taking it to the next level and if we keep going at this rate, things might turn out very well. However, I have another mal...
A. 10 August 2013: yeah, that's annoying. you can only say the same thing so many times. give him another chance or two to get a grip, and if he persists, tell him you no longer can be around him until he can learn to treat you as JUST a friend. it doesn't have to be ... (read in full...)
I'm being supported by my family while in college and I feel like a failure!
Q. This is not a relationship question, but more of a personal struggle I'm trying to cope with. I graduated with my AA in Spring of 2012. I decided to go with a psychology degree though I had intended on going to medical school so it didn't really ...
A. 10 August 2013: coming from the girl who didn't realize in time that psychology was a dead-end, consider yourself lucky and smarter than me. i have a bachelors in it, and i work as a bartender now, after all my years of school. even dabbled in nursing for a while ... (read in full...)
I'm falling in love with my second cousin but our families are forbidding it!
Q. One day I was on FB and this girl had the same last name as me so I added her. We started talking and found out that we cousins but I didn't want to believe so I ignorant the fact that we was . So I starting talking about my brother and she said she...
A. 10 August 2013: i can never really figure out or understand how all the first, second, third, or thrice removed cousin crap works. but a good rule of thumb is never to date your cousin. period. that's your family, girl. it's a no no. lol. you're young. just let ... (read in full...)
B/f was bombarding me with drunken phone calls so I turned my phone off and he couldn't contact me when his gran died. He now hates me for not being there for him. How do I handle this?
Q. Hi. My boyfriend had a lot of financial stress and he started drinking heavily, then he would phone me for these stupid drunken conversations. I tried to help with money, emotional support, trying to arrange nice things to do that he din't have to ...
A. 10 August 2013: aunty bimbim has a fantastic point. one which i didn't even pick up on. she's super spot on in saying that he wasn't even there to get his mom's calls about his dying grand parent. he was too drunk and out at a bar to even answer his phone. he ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend is tightfisted and a freeloader and I'm tired of his ways.
Q. Hi!!! I have a problem that I don´t know how to approach. It´s about money and my boyfriend. I know exactly how much money he makes, we both make almost the same, but he always spends all of his money on his own and whenever we are together I h...
A. 10 August 2013: i definitely agree with you that this is extremely frustrating. i'm very responsible with my money and also very generous. i practically always pay for my girlfriend because she doesn't make near what i make, and i enjoy treating her. i also can't ... (read in full...)
What do I do?! Do I just pack up and mosey on or wait it out or what?!
Q. About a month ago I started dating this guy from work. Things were going really well. We actually started forming a relationship quite quickly. I would hang at his house all the time. I met his family and closest friends. Things were going great... ...
A. 10 August 2013: you pack up and mosey on and leave him be. after a month, you showed him you can be a bit crazy and dramatic. which i'm not saying to be harsh. just realistic. i might be inclined to do the same if i were in his shoes. it was a flash to what the ... (read in full...)
I can't imagine the feeling of walking down the aisle and listen to him promise things to me that he already promised to someone else.
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for eight months now, I met him while he was still living and in a marriage with another woman. He states that they were separated though they still lived together, said I love you, and hasn't filed for a ...
A. 10 August 2013: well clearly you aren't his second choice, as he's only been married a year and he's already filing for a divorce and wanting to be with you instead. most married men NEVER leave their wife for someone else.
the feeling i'm getting out of all of t... (read in full...)
B/f was bombarding me with drunken phone calls so I turned my phone off and he couldn't contact me when his gran died. He now hates me for not being there for him. How do I handle this?
Q. Hi. My boyfriend had a lot of financial stress and he started drinking heavily, then he would phone me for these stupid drunken conversations. I tried to help with money, emotional support, trying to arrange nice things to do that he din't have to ...
A. 10 August 2013: he shouldn't hate you over this. i think he's just taking his grief and sadness out on you at the moment. you couldn't possibly have known this was going to happen. if you had, of course you would have kept your phone on. but since we, as humans, ... (read in full...)
How can I help my younger sister and get her out of the house more?
Q. Hi aunts and uncles. This is long and I apologize but please, please bear with me. I'll be honest, it's hard typing this because this is my younger sister I'm talking about. It breaks my damn heart... My younger sister was dealt a difficult card i...
A. 10 August 2013: i think janniepeg gave fantastic advice. she's absolutely right, cats and dogs do have great powers to heal. my girlfriend was suffering from severe depression and for two years, her only friends were her two cats. they kept her going. sounds ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is so social and constantly posting about places/things we do. I don't care for it!
Q. Dear All, My boyfriend and I have been together just over two years. I’m a more private person, whereas he’s fond of social networks, which I understand, but I asked him when we’d only been together a few months not to ‘check in’ places when we’r...
A. 10 August 2013: i think it's obnoxious to check in everywhere you go. i mean really, who gives a damn? no, to answer you're question, you're not being unreasonable or outrageous. if anything, it's unreasonable and outrageous that he feels the need to let everyone ... (read in full...)
My wife doesn't want to tell me that I am not her best lover. Why does she lie?
Q. I met my wife when she was 40 (now she is 46). She told me that, among almost 30 previous sex partners, I am her best lover. I can not believe her. My penis is only 5 inches and normal thickness. I am not bad in bed, but I know I am not the best. ...
A. 10 August 2013: First and foremost, why do you insist on her telling you such things? It's not a good question to ask. Second, why men think their penis size is everything in bed is beyond me. Sex for women isn't all about whose junk is the biggest. You can have a ... (read in full...)
My GF seem to want her mom-daughter see us have sex!. Why would this be?
Q. My girlfriend seems to be setting things up so that her daughter or her mother see us making love. Is this a more common desire for women than I realized? My girlfriend and I are sort of engaged to be engaged. she surrently lives with her mom and...
A. 9 August 2013: Ummmm .. no. Not normal. That's really weird. Yuck.... (read in full...)
My girlfriend freaked out when she found porn on my computer because I lied about it, and it was the second time I had.
Q. Hi, I have been with my girlfriend for two years but we have known each other for about 9 years and she is absolutely my soul mate, best friend and the one I want to grow old with. We have bickered about this or that and had some arguments like most ...
A. 8 August 2013: Honestly, you're beating yourself up way too much. I've never been one to understand at all why women get so damn bent out of shape over porn. What you do with your own wang behind closed doors is NO BODY else's business but yours. It's your body ... (read in full...)
I cheated on my boyfriend and told him, when I suggested splitting up he cried and begged me to stay, but the thing is I am much more attracted to the other guy than to my boyfriend
Q. Guys, I need help, I think I'm going mad. I've been in this relationship now for around 9 years. We love each other, but many a time during the first few years I slipped and cheated on my excellent boyfriend. I told him and we managed to work ...
A. 7 August 2013: You clearly need to leave your boyfriend, as you have no loyalty to him at all. If you can keep doing this to him, you need to break up with him. He loves you too much to do it. So you owe it to him to let him find someone who loves him more and ... (read in full...)
Confused about my sexual orientation
Q. lately i've been thinking about my sexual oriantion. i don't see guys like i use too. like 1d, i think none of them are hot, and justin biber gross. when a "cute" guy hits on me i throw up (not literally) i have a bf, but its not the same. it ...
A. 6 August 2013: don't worry so much about your sexual orientation. you're still very young and it could go any which way in the future.
just take it day by day and see what does it for you. maybe justin beiber isn't your "type" of guy (but then again, he does loo... (read in full...)
I'm uncertain about what my bi-sexual lover really wants given her lack of experience
Q. I pretended to be a boy for revenge on other girl (sick high school revenge, I am in college now) but ended up meeting this girl from another country meanwhile. We were in love and I told her the truth about who I am. I am gay, and she claimed ...
A. 6 August 2013: i don't really understand this weird revenge thing about pretending to be a boy. you mean online, like a chat room or on facebook or something?
anyway, if she says she loves you, then roll with it. stop second guessing everything. most straight... (read in full...)
I think I may be gay and I'm really angry with myself. Any suggestions on what I should do?
Q. Hi. I'm hoping for a little help if possible. I'm 27 and I think I may be gay. I've always found myself admiring other women and their bodies but ignored my feelings. I have been quite angry and destructive for a long time and I think it may hav...
A. 6 August 2013: as a gay female, my advice is quite simple. i think you're trying too hard to figure out if you're into men or women. it's not always so black and white. the one blatantly apparent thing in all of this? you're clearly not into your boyfriend ... (read in full...)
I'm in not very interested in sex with my fiancée. Should I go ahead with the marriage anyway?
Q. I'm engaged to be married in a few months and I'm having doubts about the whole thing. When I was 19, I got pregnant with my boyfriend at that time and we went to Britain together where I had an abortion and things were never right between us after...
A. 6 August 2013: do you just have a really low sex drive in general, after the abortion? or is it just with him?... (read in full...)
He is almost the perfect guy but he just wont text!
Q. i've been seeing this guy for 3 months now.everything was great. i know he likes me and he knows i like him. we went to several dates. he always holds my hand, hugs me when we are watching movies, always drops me off at my bus stop. in short to me ...
A. 5 August 2013: Glad I could help! Best wishes for you, too! :)
Take care.... (read in full...)
He is almost the perfect guy but he just wont text!
Q. i've been seeing this guy for 3 months now.everything was great. i know he likes me and he knows i like him. we went to several dates. he always holds my hand, hugs me when we are watching movies, always drops me off at my bus stop. in short to me ...
A. 4 August 2013: good for you! that's awesome you talked to him. i know that wasn't easy. only you can know what you are and are not okay with in this situation. for me, personally, i would have a hard time staying with someone who wouldn't want to commit to me ... (read in full...)
One white lie and my boyfriend ended the relationship. How can I fix this mistake?
Q. So recently I told my boyfriend a white lie, take in mind we've been together over a year and this is honestly the first lie I've ever told him, we've usually been open books with each other. It was something so stupid on my part and I take ful...
A. 3 August 2013: Who cares if you had a drink or not? Shy did you feel compelled to lie? Did he make you feel as though you couldn't tell him the truth?
Lying is a bad thing. Of course. But lying about who you're with or what you're up to is one thing. Lying ab... (read in full...)
He is almost the perfect guy but he just wont text!
Q. i've been seeing this guy for 3 months now.everything was great. i know he likes me and he knows i like him. we went to several dates. he always holds my hand, hugs me when we are watching movies, always drops me off at my bus stop. in short to me ...
A. 3 August 2013: It can't hurt to be honest. If he runs for the hills because you want to be with him, after three months, then he's not the right guy for you and you've stopped wasting your time. And if he responds positively and says yes, he's looking for that, ... (read in full...)
He is almost the perfect guy but he just wont text!
Q. i've been seeing this guy for 3 months now.everything was great. i know he likes me and he knows i like him. we went to several dates. he always holds my hand, hugs me when we are watching movies, always drops me off at my bus stop. in short to me ...
A. 2 August 2013: it sounds to me like he's just treating you like he treats most women he's dating. this must be his idea of what normal dating is. i don't think he's trying to hurt you or confuse you. in fact, i'd bet he'd be super surprised to come to find that ... (read in full...)
My fiance and I are currently planning our wedding for December 2013 but I don't want his friends there.
Q. My fiance and I are currently planning our wedding for Decenber 2013. The problem is I don't want his friends there. Please advise me on how to handle this. Six months ago (when we were already engaged), he was invited to a wedding without ...
A. 1 August 2013: so you want and expect your husband to not have his friends attend the wedding?? that's really depressing. his friends have every right to be there. as do yours. his friends don't have to like you. and your friends don't have to like him. the ... (read in full...)
Found out that my ex lives near the home my wife rented. Have made it complicated for myself? What should I do now?
Q. Dear Cupid, I arrived in US three weeks ago. I'm Indian Muslim . I'm 28. My wife is also 28 Recently, I bumped into my Ex”L” while jogging and she lives just one mile away from my wife house. She was also American and dumped me four years ago. ...
A. 1 August 2013: you posted this just a couple days ago. you got good responses. i think you should follow that advice.... (read in full...)
He said I should pay our bills because I don't have kids
Q. Hello Aunts and Uncles. My boyfriend is always short of money, I have to pay for our all our travel, the whole rent and he pays 1/2 our food. He says he can't afford any more because of maintenance for his daughter who is 8. I do not know what he ...
A. 1 August 2013: i do agree with anon female. she's right. i thought about this while i was writing my response.... (read in full...)
He said I should pay our bills because I don't have kids
Q. Hello Aunts and Uncles. My boyfriend is always short of money, I have to pay for our all our travel, the whole rent and he pays 1/2 our food. He says he can't afford any more because of maintenance for his daughter who is 8. I do not know what he ...
A. 1 August 2013: what on earth would he do if you two broke up? or what did he do before you two moved in together? certainly he managed to survive on his own before you. i think he's just being lazy and he sounds selfish. he needs to pick up a second job to cover ... (read in full...)
What did her text mean? Was it good? Or not so good?
Q. Hello I,m a 52 year old man , and I,ve just been on a first date with a woman. we had lunch, and at the end of the date, I said can I text or call you and she said yes, but a few hours later, before I texted her to thank her ...
A. 1 August 2013: it's a good thing, for sure. it shows she took the initiative to contact you and talk. believe me, if a woman doesn't like you or isn't interested, she would NOT go out of her way to text you. she would avoid you at all cost. you've got the green ... (read in full...)
I'm happy but overshadowed by jealousy over ex. How do I get past this?
Q. My ex ended our relationship nearly two years ago. We was together 5 years. We were both at fault, but I own up to doing a lot of bad things too. He has ignored me completely and he showed no signs of any grief or jealousy when I met someone else ...
A. 1 August 2013: that's just one of the weird quarks of human nature. we may not want our exes back, but for some reason, we want them to be miserable and miss us just for our own satisfaction.
you say you're happy and you don't want him back. so just recogniz... (read in full...)
My girlfriend and I are in love but I am a lesbian and she says she is bisexual and I wasn't her first choice. I don't know if we can fix this.
Q. I am gay and my girlfriend says she is a bisexual - she says she ignored it for fear, don't accept it, even fell in love with her best friend once, but lied to herself -, but today we were talking about it, about her exes (all boys)and I said "I am ...
A. 1 August 2013: as a gay female, i'm not sure at all what the problem is here. who cares if she's dated men? and why does it matter that it wasn't her "first choice?" most men and women don't realize their sexuality or embrace it until their early to mid twenties. ... (read in full...)
My friend is chain smoking and it kills me to know what it is doing to him!
Q. Hi one of my male best friends recently started smoking which deeply hurt me, to the point it made me physically agreessive. I'm not an agressive person but its the one thing in th world I hate, more than drugs and all the other awful stuff around ...
A. 31 July 2013: it's completely up to him what he chooses to do or not do. he's stopped (or at least slowed down on) smoking in front of you out of respect. that's nice of him. bottom line, he is an adult and will make his own decisions.... (read in full...)
I'm worried about my boyfriend and his ex, what should I do?
Q. I need help about my boyfriend being friends and talking with his ex. Lets call her X. X was his first love and they were together for 2 years. They talked like all day everyday and were always together. She cheated on him and broke his heart ...
A. 31 July 2013: well he did confide in you that he was still in love with his ex while he was with another girl. so it doesn't sound unreasonable to have concerns now that you are his girlfriend. can you communicate this with him? it doesn't have to be an ... (read in full...)
He won't give me a straight answer about the break up
Q. My boyfriend of over two and a half years broke up with me out of the blue recently and he's excuse is that he hasn't been happy and he doesn't know if he can give me 100% in a relationship. But when I ask him questions about what went wrong with ...
A. 31 July 2013: i think you've gotten great advice so far. to tack something else on, though, i will say that i do feel for you. because it's only human nature to want everything explained to us in detail about what exactly went wrong and why. his vague explanation ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is planning a weekend away with a female friend
Q. Id like some honest advice from men and women to see if I am just being over jealous or if anyone else would feel the same as me. My boyfriend of a year has a 4 year old girl from a previous relationship. He has lots of female friends which I ...
A. 31 July 2013: i think in relationships, we know what is and is not appropriate. and when we love someone, we naturally shy away from doing things we know our significant other would be uncomfortable with out of respect for them. if i were in his shoes, i'd have ... (read in full...)
He is almost the perfect guy but he just wont text!
Q. i've been seeing this guy for 3 months now.everything was great. i know he likes me and he knows i like him. we went to several dates. he always holds my hand, hugs me when we are watching movies, always drops me off at my bus stop. in short to me ...
A. 31 July 2013: when i first met my girlfriend, she was much like your boyfriend. i had a lot of the same issues that you are facing. in this day and age, we are very text savvy. everyone texts and if someone isn't very into it, it throws us completely out of whack ... (read in full...)
What gives? I have this urge to cheat ...
Q. Hi. I've been with my boyfriend for close to a year about, and I've always felt, or rather, thought about sleeping with other people, but I guess it's normal to entertain the idea even if you're in a relationship, so long as you don't act on it. ...
A. 31 July 2013: I would definitely disagree about it being normal to think about sleeping with other people while in a committed relationship. I've been with my partner almost a year now, and never once have I considered being with someone else. And in my previous ... (read in full...)
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